Need LTR advice

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2018-05-17T20:32:09+00:00

Here’s the thing. There’s no quick fix. No amount of sidebar reading (did you do it yet) or advice from us will make you immediately “more alpha.” In fact, once a girl has you pegged as a beta bitch, you typically don’t come back from that.

1) She tries to make you jealous. Succeeds in making you jealous. Power: Hers

2) You give her more attention. More sex. More cuddling. She doesn’t even have to pretend to suck your dick. Power: Hers

3) You have zero abundance. You know there are other women but have zero self-respect and zero self-esteem. Thus, you stay while your girlfriend makes you jealous, probably by actually going out and fucking other guys. Power: Clearly hers

You can’t flip the script. You have been her little cucky bitch for so long, any potential power play you attempt will be viewed like a little kid throwing a tantrum. Then she’ll suck off chad to get you to behave. You’ll behave. Rinse. Repeat.

/u/HastTagLavishLust

Blackhawk2479 · 2018-05-17T20:36:38+00:00

I feel like if I just cut attention she wouldn't come back looking for it.

Got your answer then really, haven’t you?

Store_Front_Door · 2018-05-17T20:47:34+00:00

Your boundaries are weak, and they're quite hard to lay down once the relationship isn't fresh. Your boundaries will constantly be tested, but she needs to understand that you're gone the second she pushes you too far. (Next time she tries to purposely make you jealous you up your dread, if it happens again you leave)
Reduce all other initiations but sex. As long as you get to fuck her whenever you please it's all good.
You aren't the prize in your own eyes- increase your value and love yourself more, once that happens your mindset will switch from "oh no I don't want to lose her" to "oh well, she's the one losing me".

Turning a relationship around isn't easy and might not always work out. But creating a new one is much easier with the knowledge you hold now.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-05-18T03:52:33+00:00

You can't take back control. You can only make changes to your own attitudes and behavior.

I'm relatively new to red pill so take it easy on me.

You can handle the truth. You're a big boy.

before I lost(sic) her.

You can't lose someone that was never "yours" in the first place.

Remember a woman is never "yours" it's just your turn.

She tries to make me jealous,

Only works when you assume 1) she somehow belongs to you, and 2) assume that you can't get anything better than her petty annoying melodramatic ass.

She doesn't, and you can do significantly better than her, if worse comes to worse.

Remember that her attempts to make you jealous are motivated by scarcity beliefs and desperation, not strength, confidence, power, or independence. You should see through it, for what it really is. Dependent behavior.

It's comical and pathetic. Just giggle at her and egg her on. Then give zero fucks and flirt with someone else.

I feel like I give her more attention than she gives me, I feel like I'm chasing her, I'm initiating the texts, the sex, the cuddling, everything.

She doesn't owe you any of those things. 0%

If you want sex, initiate sex. If you want cuddles, tell her to scoot over, or just grab her. If you want to talk to her, tell her to come over.

Can't tell other people to give you what you want, then you don't get it. Period.

I'm initiating the texts

Stop trying to "develop a relationship" over text.

If you want to talk to her, do it in person.

Fear of loss specifically.

What do you lose, exactly, by being single? Free time to do the shit you actually want to do? Go camping without having to check in with someone else? You loose the ability to spin several plates and slay the pussy?

How can I reverse all this and flip the shit on her.

Reverse yourself. Flip the shit on yourself, dude. She's not the one with the problem.

I want her to try to act cute for me, I'm tired of chasing her instead. I feel like if I just cut attention she wouldn't come back looking for it.

You don't need anyones attention. You need results. You need them to do what you explicitly tell them to do.

Title	Need LTR advice
Author	HastTagLavishLust
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	May 17, 2018 8:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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