Would love some suggestions on improving my plan. Situation: married, 2 kids, dealing with dead bedroom and wild mood swings , and a recently divorced friend of the wife saying I'm manipulative and controlling. I layed down the ultimatum. We either start fixing things now or I'm filing. Miss your girls weekend you have planned this weekend and we start on the task of salvage. The ultimatum caused more discussion the last week about our issues than the last year. In the end she went, ive got my legal end in order, still plan on filing. At the moment I'm the one setting the pace. I've got some assigned reading from a previous post

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2l7pqe/the_12_levels_of_dread_the_rules_for_any_long/

and am starting my evolution now. Is there anything I'm missing? Anyone else who has been here, what are the things that helped the most? I'm stuck in a shit situation that I was responsible for getting here. Don't really want to get divorced, but I know this marriage is a lost cause. We've done counseling, etc. I'm currently just trying minimize the damage and gtfo. She sucks at most aspects of parenting. That is making it harder . just fuck. Advice?