Hello guys,

I had an experience this weekend, that I dont quite understand and have to get out of my system. While doing so I also hope to gain some wisdom from more experienced people.

Last friday I was meeting a girl for the 1st time for some drinks. Personally I am in my early thirties, financially stable, average body height of 1.80m and I lift. She complimented me a lot about my looks, but on the other hand also called me "fuck boy", that I probably only want to fuck her, that I will forget her afterwards and probably meet other girls too, because I had that vibe about me. However we also talked about friends, family, work and other stuff, before I made the conversation more sexual, so she noted, that I also have a "nice side" about me. Now I did not outright deny her fuck boy claims, instead played with it and just continued to escalate step by step. Since her place was closer we went there in the end. She even gave the excuse of wanting to show something to me, I did not have to come up with something myself. At the same time she tried to use excuses to prevent the sex itself, like usually she doesn't do this before 3 dates, her place is not cleaned up and I have to leave immediately after she showed me the stuff she wanted to show me etc.. Needles to say, as soon as we went through the door it came to sex since we were both turned on.

Now what hit me unprepared: She came rather quickly and according to her several times while I did not come at all. Suddenly she tells me she is getting exhausted, jumps up and tells me to leave immediately in the midst of the night and without me blowing off my load. I did not experience such a reaction before and was baffled and pissed of at the disrespectful behaviour at same time. In that moment my ego was hurt. I directly took my stuff and quickly went out of the door, without discussing or anything, because at the back of my mind I was thinking like "damn, pls no false rape accusation".

  1. How could I have handled the situation better? Not escalate to her place even though the iron was hot and logistics were better?
  2. Why did she react in such a way? Was it remorse in the end or a wicked mind game, where denying me an orgasm would in her mind bind me more to her? Because I would come back for it and not drop her for other plates? On the other hand she did delete my number (can't see Whats App picture anymore).
  3. Do I have to get in contact with her to prevent repercussions? I still have her number and usually write directly after sex, to have something that prevents the false claims, but we did not have contact till now.

To me her reaction in the end doesn't make sense and it really fucks with my head. On the one hand a playful and fun evening, on the other hand a total 180° bitch move and getting deleted out of live. Like was the whole evening only an act and I misread this person so heavily? If yes, damn has she hit the right buttons to fool me. I can't see the bigger picture right now.