Not approaching

alreadyredschool · 2014-11-16T13:21:59+00:00

There is no perfect moment, only good and bad moments. If it is important for you not to get rejected then you will wait for the perfect moment, if you don't care at all you will approach 100 girls and get 0-100 numbers or kiss closes.

Regret is a bitch, much worse than rejection. Rejection is only hard to deal with when you take it personal. She doesn't know you, so stop caring about it.

Group of 6 people? Crash in, say "Hello mates" explain that you want to get to know them all and you are already in a new social circle. And tell them that it would be very nice if they used the names of the person they are referring to all the time so you get to remember the names.

There is tons of stuff about approach anxiety just look for that term in the blogs listed in the sidebar, and when you are there read the other stuff.

2 PUA techniques:

The 3 second rule:

From urban dict: A rule in which applies that after you spot a woman you would like to meet or notice a woman is giving you eye contact, you immediately approach her within 3 seconds to prevent any bad thoughts or limiting beliefs (excuses) from holding you back.

I was at a club and I noticed that girl checking me out, I gave her the 3 second rule ..1..2..3, then asked her for a female opinion on something. *

And approaching 10 girls every day. Try to hold the conversation for as long as possible and end with her number or with you two making out. Or even try to seek out rejection. You will get a feeling for what works and what doesn't. Reflect upon the encounters, think about eye contact, did you touch her, were you desperate...

'* This is just a basic example someone wrote on urban dict, I personally don't like opinion openers, I prefer direct openers. The rejection you get from "Hey I am ARS and I think you look great" is harder to deal with than "Hey I need a females opinion on this pink shirt...". But in my experience they work great and you filter out uninterested girls way faster.

RushCoaster · 2014-11-16T17:00:17+00:00

You'll either take the advice i'm sure you've read from forums/TRP.

Or you'll continuously go out and not take action and go home feeling shitty about yourself until you get sick and tired of that feeling and eventually say fuck it and do it.

Honestly theres not much to read that's going to help you take action, it's all on you and how bad you really want this.

Next time you're out just take the things you've learned, grab your balls, take a deep breath, let go of your ego and the outcome of what's going to happen say fuck it and go in.

Yes it's going to feel uncomfortable and your going to try and find everything to stop you, but that's the way it is just push through and after you're done be happy of the outcome no matter what, you just had the balls to do something that a large % of men are afraid to do be happy.

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-11-16T14:48:41+00:00

You need to build a sense of outcome independence.

Keep on crossing the boundary with girls until they tell you to stop. You actually WANT them to reject you. It seems odd, but the "Opposite George" motif will help you see that women don't actually want you to be an inhibited bitch. If you keep pushing it until they get past their desire to get plowed by you and all the way until they reject you again, then you can see where their boundaries are. You will also not have anxiety, because you genuinely won't care if any particular bitch rejects you or not.

crazycattime · 2014-11-16T14:07:33+00:00

You might also try a bit lower-pressure approach, just to help get you over the initial anxiety hump.

The next time you're out in public, force yourself to go ask one girl if there is a pretzel stand nearby, or where the bookstore is, or something. Then do it again and again. You're not looking for 10-15 minute conversations, the idea here is to condition you body to get used to you walking up to a girl and saying something.

Once you're able to do that, you'll find that your "real" approaches get a lot easier.

But, as the other guys have said, this ultimately comes down to you. You have to be the one who drives the process. When you want it bad enough, you will figure it out and find your self just doing it.

Don't give up! And please let us know how it goes.

oldredder · 2014-11-17T10:31:17+00:00

You need to dance with them. You need to say something with confidence, like ask her name and go from there.

Just do it. No excuses. Don't even think about it. If you've got 1 thought make it this: I'm in my comfort zone. Nothing gets done here. Step out of the comfort zone. NOW. And go do it.

Title	Not approaching
Author	MisterBlox
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	November 16, 2014 12:01 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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