Not cracking under pressure

comcain · 2020-12-07T05:15:44+00:00

Confidence comes from a series of successful experiences. Hang in there, young Padawan, it'll come in time.

mikkeldaman · 2020-12-07T06:17:43+00:00

Depends on what kind of pressure:

People pressuring me to finish something quickly: I yell and curse and tell them to wait cause I am only human;

People breaking my balls: I either come up with a witty response or roll my eyes and ignore them after.

Edit: also don't be afraid to start out a fight if people are becoming verbally abusive. Most people think they can intimidate others by acting violent without actually doing anything so a surprise sucker punch always comes as a surprise and they revise their attitude under a storm of kicks and punches. Of course, you have to be comfortable to face potential legal consequences for that or even retribution from their friends.

KingGerbz · 2020-12-07T04:48:16+00:00

Exposure therapy and some deep breathing works well. Just put yourself out there and head straight towards that of which you fear.

throw-away-1709 · 2020-12-07T09:36:09+00:00

Concentrate on your hands and feet and let every energy thrown at you just flow into the ground.

Meanwhile think about something else untkl the decibels come down.

Then calm say without irony or sarcasm in your tone (that's the real hard part)

'That is really bad'

Then wait for the second round of shouting to end

Then say

'And what shall WE now do about that.'

Works wonders each time as it flips the coin without even arguing at all.

UniversalFapture · 2020-12-07T15:46:06+00:00

I assume you’re pledging? Shoulda studied up bud. I knew my shit and got to glide without being bothered much while the rest of my brothers got individually shit on constantly for being wrong. It was a good thing for my and others development and hopefully you look back on it as being a good thing for you. I’ve seen lots of dudes have breakdowns, they’re the better for it now, but it’s better to stay strong.

Don’t really have any advice when it comes to calming down when you’re about to explode, but just try to realize some perspective on the experience it might help a bit.

Also, know that everything that’s being done to you know will one day be you doing it to the next group and that’s a fun thing to look forward to trust me.

laiyaise · 2020-12-07T17:18:03+00:00

Just comes down to experience. As you experience stressful situations you will naturally begin to logically dissect them later on in your mind and you'll notice that most of the shit people are doing, freaking out, etc is quite useless and their actions have the opposite effect in terms of resolving the situation. If you think only in terms of the resolution of the situation you'll quickly learn how to discard the stress and anxiety, putting your mental effort into the task at hand instead. Taking a leadership position when it comes to resolving the situation also helps you develop this perspective as you can no longer be the person that screams deliriously until someone else comes to solve the problem for you, you'll be entirely focused on the problem solving aspect.

Look at these situations as opportunities. Think of them as building a skill, a mental muscle. Just take on enough that you can handle with a little extra so you're always pushing yourself, don't overdo and get crushed by it. Make sure you get adequate rest.

Title	Not cracking under pressure
Author	UniversalFapture
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	December 7, 2020 4:17 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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