Hey you guys,

Before I get into anything, I would like to give you a little background.

I have just recently fallen into (and now trying to climb out of ) oneitis with a girl I have known for two years. We were never friends, but acquaintances and were in the same classes together. It was recently, we became closer in a class we both enrolled in. I started to hang out with her more, flirt, etc... and when everything goes well... I fall easy. Anyways, during this time, I had discovered she had a boyfriend, but nonetheless I confessed that I had feelings for her. She said she didn't feel the same way, and I could see she loves her boyfriend. I told her needed space because every time I'm with her I want something more. We ended on a good note.

I recently enrolled for another class, and lo and behold, she's in it too. I'm not really sure what to do. We all know how girls treat guys who have oneitis for them (she did treat me with disrespect when I was chasing, as all girls do when it happens), but I have fallen into this trap many times.

I recently discovered that I consistently fall into oneitis/get infatuated with girls I consider beautiful, due to low self-esteem. At first I thought it was experience with women, but I see now it is my lack of self-confidence when 'pursuing' them. I'm confident enough to talk and flirt when in abundance, especially with girls I'm not attracted to, but with girls I am interested in... I tend to put them on a pedastal super early. I get needy when I get a taste of 'romance' 'reciprocated feelings', etc. Probably due to my upbringing from a very abusive household.

I want to change, and I really want to focus on myself; and boost my confidence/self-esteem, with things I'm passionate about. I have also come to the realization that I am not great with women either. I've been on quite a few dates, and have gotten "yes" from my fair share, but never the girls who are 'up there'. Apparently I like girls, that every other guy wants.

Anyways, she's now in my class... for a year. I do like her, and I usually get over a girl through physical and emotional distance. But now... well I don't have that option... and I'm not sure what to do. Any feedback/advice would be great.