On becoming an asshole

thrwy75479 · 2020-04-20T11:41:05+00:00

Agreed. The older you get, the more of an asshole you'll become.

Within bounds, it's not cynicism, it stems from a deep understanding of how a lot of things in the world are fucking bullshit, and there are a lot of unmet expectations from the people close to you. This leads to confidence in your own world view.

I've run into a lot of guys that are outward assholes, and it only takes a few interactions to realize that these guys are carrying a lot of pain.

I'm certain they were nice at some point. Sadly, being nice will get you killed, particularly if you're a man, and that's probably why they changed. It's nuanced though. If you go too far, you'll end up inside a chalk outline.

The best thing is to have humility, which is a keen awareness of others. If you can clearly see someone else is not reciprocating your assholery, and is not feeling good about it, you should tone it down.

There's also definitely a difference in the way you have to treat women, and men—outside of a professional setting anyway. It's nature.

The fact that you're aware of your own bullshit is a good thing, and maintaining that self-awareness will keep you grounded. All in all, being an asshole can provide the aggressiveness necessary to make the world around you better, which is not a bad thing.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-04-21T00:10:52+00:00

So are you being an "asshole" or are you just unapologetically pursuing your own interests, putting your own needs and wants and desires ahead of m'lady's, and taking what you want in life (within the bounds of the law, ofc)?

Now I do not, generally, advocate being a rude, obnoxious, arrogant dick who insults people for no reason, but I also know that I should be looking our for Numero Uno.

With women, I prefer to keep the vibe "mildly subversive" so that they feel a little but off-balance and unsure near me, because it gives the Hamster something to spin the wheel about.

2020-04-20T16:10:27+00:00

The asshole game is overrated. Setting frame and sticking to it is the name of the game.

RedRiver0415 · 2020-04-20T11:32:17+00:00

You don't want to be a prick. Its more like being a jerk in a slightly funny way.

NeuroBoss31 · 2020-04-21T07:02:11+00:00

Being an asshole 'because this is the way to get laid' is the game of those of inferior intelligence and lack of confidence. It works on fat chicks and 7's and below and only up until you're in college, or 24 max.

Look at the guys who pull 11s, they're gentlemen.

Be a gentleman.

Title	On becoming an asshole
Author	helrtest
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	April 20, 2020 9:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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