Plate left party crying

naji247 · 2014-11-09T23:27:30+00:00

remain aloof if you don't want to escalate your relationship beyond plate status... plates fall sometimes and there's not much you can do about it

oldredder · 2014-11-10T09:03:39+00:00

Dude: if you want to continue fucking a girl you can't neglect her when she's around.

If one girl has a problem with another it can be entertaining they fight for you, over you, compete to be a bigger slut to take you home. Even opens up the chance for a 3-way but since there's aggression / jealousy that's a tough sell. Not impossible but needs some artful approach. I'll assume today you don't have that artful approach down.

Don't state anything about being exclusive, or feelings, unless she brings it up & find a way to use both amused mastery to deflect shit-tests while still being respectful of her feelings. Try to find a way to phrase things that end her on a positive note, and if she feels she needs the emotional roller-coaster on the way to make the story believable to her emotional mind, that's what you do.

Remember, her language is emotions, her brain's native "operating system" or architecture. Use that.

IF she brings up concerns about you being with another woman that's how you push it down to a level that's acceptable to her. IF she instead just bitches that you ignored her then don't fucking ignore her.

You don't ignore plates in your presence, you learn how to manage them all together or avoid letting them get all together. Ya, I know, you can't prepare for everything & she arrived unannounced. Well... shit happens.

On the other hand you may already have used good dread game. Dread game shouldn't be used without good reason but since it's been done it could result in her being even more devoted to you because she can see there are so many other girls after you she has zero room to be a bitch and get away with it.

Entitled-princess-style goes out the fucking window when she sees you're too valuable to put up with that shit and this is a good thing.

alexkitsune · 2014-11-10T04:17:15+00:00

Sounds like you duped her into thinking you were somewhat exclusive and it really upset her.

Ayy_Feminist · 2014-11-10T10:13:15+00:00

You worry too much. You wanted a relationship and now regret losing her? You fucking should not.

If you wanted something, you should've just teased her.

Chicks are usually ok sharing you if you act the way you're supposed to. This means clear intentions and clear boundaries set with her, which you didn't do.

Sounds like you panicked as soon as she left the party and regretted not chaining yourself

smokingtransistor · 2014-11-10T06:54:07+00:00

Dude you never directly show them the truth, she has to guess weather or not you date other women, she has to suspect but never knew for sure. I myself am trying to leave the plates better than they were before me. They start sports, because i always talk that it important etc. When you mixed yor plates in the same room, it was bound to happen. And in my opinion you were kind of a douche. Why keep a plate if you don't like her, further more you want to avoid and control drama, instead you purposefully created drama by bringing plate to party. When you bring her to a party you kind of show her that you would like to spend more time with her and present her to your friends etc. It doesnt matter what you bith discussed this is how she will percieve the situation . then you left with another girl. Why get her there in the first place ?

Title	Plate left party crying
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	15
Comments	14
Date	November 9, 2014 11:20 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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