Plates while in LTR logic?

Kreature · 2016-05-22T11:49:52+00:00

Everyone here has there own red pill theory, so to complain about one small part you will have members who are and aren't against it.

While in the whole time I've spent in the red pill, I've not seen many support it, if so it's usually the members who don't have a ltr. But they do recommend you for keeping your branches open, and chatting to women. There was a good post a couple of years back on how you should behave in an ltr and it works out that you should be alpha majority of the time while also being beta. I'll try later and find it as I'm currently on mobile.

Edit: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/06/07/relationship-game-the-day-to-day-alpha/

xArcheo · 2016-05-22T11:53:09+00:00

It's more about abundance mentality, applying that mentality, keeping options open, and avoiding oneitis.

When in an LTR don't focus all your energy on one woman. You should still meet and actively seek out other women. You don't have to cheat to meet other women. The woman your with probably has 100 other guys in her phone that she could jump onto in a moments notice.

You can cheat if you want. It's really a moral thing though. I beleive it's wrong because I expect my partner not to cheat and in turn I won't cheat either. I won't judge you if you decide to cheat though. I have many friends who cheat and it has not affected our relationship.

Apexk9 · 2016-05-22T11:28:57+00:00

I don't cheat.

Bandalero · 2016-05-22T11:35:49+00:00

its more about having multiple women interested in you than just your GF, don't dedicate all your sexual energy to one women, give yourself options

dragonpants6 · 2016-05-22T15:42:07+00:00

for "cheating" if you want to call it that

I'm not going to argue against male:female instinct. but I also have strong loyalty with my girl as long as she's by my side. she's expressed she doesn't want to know details, which reinforces that girls would rather be lied to than to get their feelings hurt. makes sense to me

males have a drive to spread their seed. females have a drive to attach themselves to the most attainable alpha in their reach. monogamy is an idea created by a gynocentric society that enforces support from said "alphas" because genders are now equal in a civilized environment. some scientist faggots somewhere probably said this is the best scenario for raising children. we have abandoned "survival of the fittest". still makes sense to me, but it doesn't speak well to raising children into strength

that's just a tidbit of what my line of thinking is. I can separate love and sex, and still provide resources for my LTR and family whom I care deeply about. if she some day decides she doesn't like that, it will suck but I will respect her point of view and move on

I'll add that I'm not wining and dining these plates. if I'm trying to get to know some rando girl at a deeper level, I consider that to be cheating--and I avoid this at all costs to keep the balance

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-05-22T12:06:11+00:00

I see some of you guys recommend to keep plating while someone is in a LTR

There are two reasons guys agree to an LTR: either they're afraid that the girl will cheat and somehow offering his "commitment" will prevent this. Or she demands commitment or she's leaving and he's afraid of losing her.

They both stem from insecurity. Although one might make the counter-argument that girls will toss commitment aside when tingles strike so if one doubts the likelihood that the other party will live up to her side of the bargain, then fuck keeping his side, but that basically leads us back to the first two options. And sure, I can almost hear you say "But...but...but what if he's in LURRRRVE?!", but that's just the second one, with some marketing.

That said:

Which is the guy cheating, which you think is ok

Monogamy is a moral construct, and one that goes against the masculine sexual imperative. If one has a moral code that prohibits "cheating" then one should not "cheat", I suppose. I just don't take "the pledge".

but if you found out you girlfriend cheated, you would dump her as she's not worth it.

This is a false "equality". Men and women are complementary, they are not "Identical".

Where's the logic with that?

The male sexual imperative and the female sexual imperative are different. We intuitively understand that when we say that a guy who fucks a lot of women is a "stud" and a girl who fucks a lot of guys is a "slut". The stud is fulfilling his biological imperative by spreading his seed far and wide. Women want him, men want to be him. The slut is advertising what a shitty partner she would be, because given her predilections, a man partnering with her would always have reason to doubt his paternity of any resulting children.

Put another way, on a biological level, the woman knows the baby is hers while the man must have faith. Thus, from a biological standpoint, it is far shittier for a woman to cheat than a man. Indeed, cucking a man denies him his genetic legacy, whereas a woman who is raped and falls pregnant will still get to pass on her genes, although not, one imagines, with her preferred partner. My point here is not to trivialize rape at all, but to make the point that cuckoldry is a Big, Hairy Deal, at least if one is the cuckold.

Title	Plates while in LTR logic?
Author	youguess123
Upvotes	3
Comments	15
Date	May 22, 2016 11:06 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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