Hi TRP,

I need some advice.

I have a girlfriend for 3,5 years now. We've been living together this whole time and it is pretty serious business for us. I have no reason to distrust her. She's never given me one.

Also somethiong important to note is that I've suffered from obsessive negative thoughts and an identity crisis from the beginning of our relationship (for this reason I thought it wouldn't be a good reason to start a relationship in the first place because i wanted to get myself together first and relationships cost energy but I did nevertheless and she has done nothing but suprise me since)

Now to the point: I have trust issues, at least I think I have. I also read to "trust your gut" when it comes to thinking your partner is cheating so maybe she is because I do have these flashes. This is my problem i can't really distinguish between my obsessive negative thoughts and my intuition. I also have found nothing that points that way. She loves travelling and is away to italy this weekend with a girlfriend of hers. Ofcourse this triggers me and I catch myself imagining her cheating on me in Italy and other doom scenarios.

Does this sound familliar? Should I work on my confidence? How can I stop worrying and not fuck this relationship up with my insecurities?