Through the last couple of months I've been chatting with a lot of girls through online dating apps - I would meet with certain girls and consider myself "catching a break" because I had a scarcity mindset. Things are great with my work life, have great platonic relationships, picked up a few hobbies, lifting/sports consistently. At first, it was like solving a code to engaging new girls and then seeing where things would go. I soon picked up that the girls that would seem the easiest from the first interaction were not worth it, and ultimately I realized that the only thing many of them could offer is "the chase" for their vagina. They literally expected guys (including me) to put up with their deprivation techniques, masculine/machiavellian ways just to have a shot with them further. The seemingly normal girls would literally talk about how they are "old souls" or like "grandmas", or just super focused on themselves/work, etc.. you get the point. There was an abundance of fatness as well, some even appearing proud of it. In my view, something about American culture has ruined many of these girls - only a true simp would continue to buy them food/drinks, and invest time into them.

Fast track to the quarantine period: I have left up my dating profile on 3 apps, and give almost minimal attention to any of them (stark contrast with earlier). Girls have been reaching out like crazy AND they are all so generic - I do not even wish to engage them in conversation. Magically, 70% of them want to know what you do for a living, your age & height usually from the first protracted interaction. If the girl cannot be conveniently seen, I am not even going to bother anymore unless she is interesting and I can learn things from her.

As this whole mandatory quarantine thing was starting (stores transitioning to be closed), I met a 20 y/o girl from Colombia who seems to embody the opposite of these spoiled women. She moved to my area 2 months ago. She is blown away by the serenity of the Gold Coast of Long Island, is appreciative of the time/attention she gets from me, loves to dance, is fun/romantic and is willing to escalate sexually pretty much anywhere. She has all the characteristics of a solid LTR, cooks/cleans/supportive; very convenient with our work schedules and physical proximity. I can tell she is fearful of losing or offending me. I've learned over the years that when you treat a female as an equal or better, their mind almost cannot handle that and they start acting like conceited children - almost like their subconscious self is tricking them into ruining whatever good thing is going for them.

I haven't developed a case of oneitis because I am still chatting with other women (likely would be meeting them if it wasn't for the ongoing pandemic) but all these interactions with other girls are highlighting how they are just needy for attention, drug addicts, or only know how to deal with desperate or craven men. I honestly feel bad for some of these women because they have planted themselves into careers and are now in their late 20's/early 30's. The contrast is enormous and frankly I have 99 problems but a b**** ain't one.

I want to see this Colombian girl self-sufficient financially, modestly interdependent, and happy. I have already pulled the non-exclusivity card when she deleted the dating app we met on in front of me and I didn't reciprocate. I have a lot of leverage over her in the material/intellectual sense. I even met her mom several times who married young (prior to 20). Are there certain things I should be aware of doing/not doing? I don't want to concede and feel like I am backtracking on a promise of exclusivity. I do care about her wellbeing immensely but my experience with Americanized women (even if they moved here as recently as 5 yrs ago) has been that as soon as they realize that they "have" you, they become lazy/nag/entitled, and you're sitting on the phone wondering how to move on from there. Is there something about Colombian-Bogota culture I should be aware of?