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Question about the soft next

iamzeuss · 2018-08-07T21:45:18+00:00

I have read that during/after a soft next you either: A: Reach out to the girl after a specific amount of time and pretend like nothing happenned. B: Wait for...

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August 7, 2018

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Title	Question about the soft next
Author	iamzeuss
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	August 7, 2018 9:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/95fypk/question_about_the_soft_next/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/question-about-the-soft-next.129654 https://theredarchive.com/post/129654

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[–]RedLegendx2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]iamzeuss[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

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[–]trpchecker0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I understand where you're coming from. Here's some explanation.

Soft next creates space and forces her mind to run wild. Her emotions about are based upon imagination and she doesn't have any real information to correlate her emotions. This builds attraction. She wants to get close to you to validate and solidify her emotions.

When you reiniate contact. This is how it works.

Your frame : Because the other girls are busy or you are done with your main priorities.

Her hamster overdrive: why did he contact me? After every hamster overdrive women come up with a conclusion and accept it. Here are two options. There might be more but I'm taking a generic case

Option a: Because I'm special. Because of the high level of attraction built feeling special makes her feel good contrary to what you might normally think. It's similar to when you first meet. But if that lasts a little too much attraction will plummet. In that case, she will shit test you in way to get an answer if she is special. You pass it by saying something along the lines of "you wish".

Option b: she thinks you just came to her because other girls are busy. She will comfort test. You pass by saying something along the lines of I missed your ass.

When you reiniate via text and you're inexperienced you wouldn't be able to differentiate between the two. Which is why trp recommends you to reduce fluff in text and set up logistics and escalate to not kill the attraction you created. Your goal is to pass tests in front of her face reading her emotions.

[–]Adrenation-1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link