questions about building social circle.

I don't have any social circle, I have been quite antisocial and now when I realize I never have had sex and never had any close friends at an age of 22 I really want to fix this.

I have been reading the red pill sub for about 1.5 months now and I have completely stopped playing video games and started lifting weights and reading instead. But the greatest challenge I seem to have is to socialize, I simply don't know where to start.

I eat healthy, I'm fairly attractive and fit, I'm a bit socially awkward. I just don't know where and when it is appropriate to approach other people, I can't just run into a stranger and ask them out or am I just being too scared? Does this depend on country/culture?

Often when I in rare occasions actually manage to start a conversation with a stranger I have nothing to say after a while of talking and then comes an awkward silence and then we split up.

Not only this but I feel kinda trapped in my moms apartment, I can't move out due to huge wait lists. I don't own a car and I'm a student so I'm low on money so all the SMV I have is my look.

[–]dammit_redskins 4 points4 points4 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

[–]Throwaway8827337[S] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]ECoast_Man1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm studying computer science so my class mates are 95% male geeks

If you're starting from nothing, you can call them all geeks all you want but at least they have friends. You are in no position to judge them at the moment. Befriend your classmates. If they're into lame ass shit, tag along sometimes just to practice being social. I'm friends with nerds, and I was your age I loved hanging out with them because it was usually a Saturday where I was hungover as a fish and they're hanging out bbqing some meat, having a beer, gaming or watching a movie or something. Those were great nights for something to do when you don't want to go out.

I feel like the only way I can get to meet girls my age is going partying, and I would like to avoid this as I want to avoid alcohol and ruining my sleep schedule.

It is hard to avoid alcohol at your age. It's true, but not impossible. Learn to nurse a beer, no one fucking cares when you're at a party. I did this for a long time, and if you bring a six pack and drink one or two over the course of a five hour party no one notices, and you're "fitting in". Some people write off alcohol altogether, and that's cool, but it will be more challenging.

Get into boxing ASAP, but research your gym. I boxed for years, and the thing about boxing gyms it's a lot of old guys. Like ten years older than you. It's awesome to socialize with those guys, but I don't think it's what you're looking for. You should do it, but it won't solve your problem.

Get into a co-ed light competition hobby. The go-to is something like ultimate frisbee. Co-ed soccer. Whatever. That's how you start. Even if you're a bit awkward, they tend to have mixers and fundraisers and so on so you can start that way.

[–]Shieldless_One0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]dammit_redskins1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

[–]aegir980 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Title	questions about building social circle.
Author	Throwaway8827337
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	July 14, 2017 6:27 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/6nawi2/questions_about_building_social_circle/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/questions-about-building-social-circle.94120 https://theredarchive.com/post/94120

Comments