Hey everyone,

Long story short, after reading about TRP I realised I was orbiting a girl I assumed was my "best friend", I've taken measures to lower my orbiting and she doesn't like that and I get messages once every few days/weeks with "Why don't we talk as much anymore" and "You're abandoning me".

That kind of crap, I've responded to them with little words, just a simple no and "No you're abandoning me" (as a tease). If she wants to start a conversation with me, she can do that in a normal way, not that attention seeking nonsense.

Since starting to read TRP I've lost aprox 59 LBS (and still going) and she's witnessed it all, so her opinion of me could change, but I can't care less if it would, I have other things to do. I wouldn't mind plating her though.

She's been a really good friend but after discovering TRP there were just too much signs I was orbiting her. I was going out of my way to fix her network at home (I'm an IT Networking guy) which was entirely fucked up at home. I spent alot of time doing that, and I did not get anything in return.

That's just a single example, and there are some others.

So the first thing I did was to stop doing things for her without getting anything in return.

The second was to stop giving into her validation seeking the entire time.

The third was to not engage conversations with her anymore unless it was logistics or I needed her for something.

The third resulted into her feeling like "You're abandoning me" stuff.

And the fourth was being more straightforward to her, not just being nice "because she is a girl" or any of that crap.

The only reason I'm keeping this girl around is I either want to plate her later on OR she's actually a legit friend. I'm just not sure, the relationship I had that let me here, the female friend is the girl that "got me through that" and sticked around after I blocked her 4 times because my ex told me to. I've known her for around 4 years too.(for all that matters)

Q1: Could I consider her a real friend, despite that fact she is a female ?

So, yesterday evening after radio silence for 6 days and acting more straight forward, not responding with more words than she typed and teasing her alot and joking alot towards her in the few sentences we trade prior to the 6 days, she said "Wanna go to Mcdonalds on XX day together, we can do a cheat day together(we used to do that alot, and I don't own a car so it's worth for me") FF a few sentences and she pops "I don't know whats up with you lately, but you seem kind of more arrogant" FF a few sentences and I say "So I'm an asshole basically ?" to which she replies "Yeah" And I replied "Alright, that makes the sweet moments more worthwhile"

She didn't like my response and kept going towards that I should change my attitude and be more nice towards her, I just ended the convo and went to bed because I didn't feel like wasting more time on her crap.

Q2: Was this a shit test? If so, she continued asking about it and i kept "deflecting/not caring/teasing" was this the right approach ?

If it was a shit test, and the approach was wrong, what would the right approach be ?

TL;DR: Been through alot with a female friend of 4 years, she would "drive the car" if I ever moved, can I consider her a good friend even tho she looks for validation/attention whenever she is bored or doesn't get it from other guys?

Was the situation described a shit test and did I handle it correctly?

Thanks in advance for responding, I'm just trying to test the water a bit on how to identify shit test with people I knew prior to my "transformation"(that's still going on, but great progress)