Random one night stands

recursoinominado · 2017-10-16T14:52:55+00:00

Same situation here. Happens every fucking break up. It's oneitis. Your brain are projecting qualities on her that she does not possess and forgetting about her faults. It's hard, you had a real connection with someone and now you are fucking some random girl that you don't give a fuck about and possibly don't even like the company or even the sex. I found that if you focus on gaming and sex, you are going to have a bad time, the most important thing to you if to find and follow your purpose, something that is bigger than you and will give you fulfillment. Otherwise you are going to think about your ex constantly (and several other minor and really petty useless problems). Focus on the process and think long term. Right now she is probably better than you with all the validation (dicks) that she wants but who do you think will be fulfilled on the long term?

Renzotl56 · 2017-10-16T14:35:28+00:00

Work on being happy by yourself. Keep doing stuff you find fun, you'll eventually get over her.

quicklogaccount · 2017-10-16T17:28:13+00:00

That's because being bonded and trusting is nice too. The vast majority of oneitis is induced by scarcity, guys mistaking being sexually fulfilled with the chick. But that's not all there is to a LTR, being bonded, whether properly, being masculine, or improperly, being childish, is either empowering or relieving, and both are pleasant. We're bound to miss that too.
Time should fix that bit. Rule of thumb if you're on abundance you won't bond to shitty gals (you will bond to psychos so learn to spot them), you don't need to worry a lot.

Going out to bars/clubs on the weekends with friends are fun, i keep hitting the wall and i'm too scarred to approach girls after the eye test.

You're not scarred, you're scared.
I stayed six years in a LTR with a chick with a cute face and fucked up body. After breaking up I lacked confidence, I didn't want to get dumped so I only opened lower tier chicks, high 5s, 6s, 7s at best. IOIs wouldn't help, I'd still be scared of hotter gals.
Deep down chicks are the same. ALL the same. If a chick is giving IOIs the same game you'll have to run on a 6 will work on the 8. If she's dtf, all you'll have to do is escalate the same way.

GreenPiller · 2017-10-16T19:09:42+00:00

I'm going against the grain here but find I girl you can talk to and hang out with. It'll be a nice distraction.

flatox · 2017-10-17T13:23:12+00:00

Same for me, iv'e just accepted it as part of life, and a useless emotion.

Title	Random one night stands
Author	Jojo0706
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	October 16, 2017 2:16 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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