TL,DR: met a hb8, went on a few dates, shared kiss at end of second one. Her dad caught a stroke (day after date 1) passed away 10 days later. Very flirtatious after, but ultimately stopped talking after realising we want diff things. Want to reach out as she bereaving?

So - let's break this down.. - met this gorgeous down to earth HB8 online via twitter a year back, spoken on and offline for a bit but only went on a date earlier in Sept. Had a great time and kept in contact ever since.

  • sadly and very suddenly, her dad had a stroke the next day, and very sadly passed away about 10 days later. Lots of textual support during this time, keeping her upbeat and jovial, responding very well and still getting to know each other well, positive banter and not playing the white knight/being too much of her emotional crutch. She's fine otherwise and tries to lives life as normal, working, going out etc. Seems to have gotten over the death and accepted it respectfully and remarkably quickly.

  • still in good contact, went on another drinks date about three weeks later. Lots of kino, banter, chemistry, even the table next to us interrupted to ask if we were together. Before the night even ended, shared very passionate kisses. If she didn't have a family do the next day/I wasn't catching a flight next day, im confident we could have f-closed. Ended date on a high, went our respective homes.

  • very flirtatious chat in days following, when (naturally) we end up talking about sex, relationships, life etc. We're both not looking for marriage or kids until wayyy later which is good; though I made clear I'm not looking for anything serious now, she did too but wasn't ruling out any potential segues to relationship. Eventually, she says that as things are developing quite positively yet highly sexually charged, she isn't about having sex outside an rship (she's very sex positive too btw.) and doesn't want to open up emotionally to someone that's not going to have her best interests at heart. I understand, got more plates to spin, no big deal, and keep it playful/teasing "that's cool, but this beard will remain sweet, can't do nothing about that ;)" (she loves my beard and this was a point of kino on date 2). However, out of the three short messages sent, one was 'read' (two blue ticks) and the other two remained unread. Hm. Ah well, no biggie.

Now, in normal TRP world I'd let that go and soft nexted, have fun with other women as I have been doing; it now being 3 weeks since last speaking (that message above). But, I suddenly feel to reach out and see how she is doing ONLY because she's still going thru her bereavement, on a completely platonic/aloof/unphased type level -- but I'm still spinning with "let her chase you" especially as she didn't bother to read my last messages and I'm sure she's blocked me to 'move on' so to speak.

So the question is - drop a simple text, or keep on keeping it moving?

Edit: fixing grammar and clarity in places. Kept the flow concise to avoid a wall of text.

Edit 2: kept the NC up, and turns out she's deleted my number. Yikes. Confident I did the right thing, but confused if it was the right thing.