I’ll try and make this brief as possible, and even before I was married I would never ask this question because I do believe once frame is lost no point in trying to gain it back, so I never really tried. Long story short, getting divorced married 13 years 2 kids, I would consider myself more red pill at least, before that was such I thing, well until I met the one. Then it was just a downhill slide into the darkness of total blue pill, ran into some personal issue, death of a parent, and life just got hard. I start to re-evaluate how I interacted with women, and I’ve been dating and doing great no complaints. When I’m talking with a new plate no problems, if we hook up great, if not I don’t want to waste my time on to the next. The problem is if I could I would prefer to be married with my kids under the same roof and in a red pill type marriage, basically the relationship I had with my wife when we first met. I know my red pill attitude is what got her, and stacking her up against other women she has a fairly high market value tight CrossFit body, six figure salary, responsible lady, but she is the only person that will ever be the mother of the only kids I will ever have. I’ve come to the conclusion divorce has to happen, currently we are living together, and as long as we aren’t talking about us things are great, and yes she knows I’m dating. I don’t flaunt it in her face, I just say I’m going out, sometimes it’s with the guys and sometimes it’s with a lady. I basically just told her I would start dating, so she really has no idea how active I am with dating.

I’ve come to the conclusion personally I think for me to regain frame to put me on the path of reuniting the family divorce actually really needs to happen it’s a must, and I need to establish boundaries with her. This is completely new territory for me because if we didn’t have this life bond connection of family, I would be done, walking away would be easy, but this involves family now, so for me I feel like morally I need this to work. Any suggestions? As far as why the divorce no cheating, I swear no cheating on her part, her routine for years has been gym, work, home, sleep, and rarely she would go out with her girlfriends, and she only had one or two close girlfriends. As well we moved to a different state 1200 miles away from our original home and her patterns were the exact same in terms of life. I’ve heard enough cheating stories to realize the one thing that always happens is the woman all of a sudden changes up her routine, and those changes involve not include the spouse.