I am 29m, was full beta until 28. I found a 23 year old girl that is my type. I figured she's young she's into me let's enjoy her and see how it goes.

We have sex 1x-2x each day. Its been about 2 months. She lives 2 blocks away from me. she's generally affectionate and has cooked for me and given me one arts and crafts gift and has taken my sweaty sweatshirts for her to wear and does not try to make me pay for anything. I'll tell her to wear certain things and she will do it for me. I think those are good signs.

I have been attempting to follow the DEVI model during sex although my main challenge is immersion, I tend to get anxious and can lose an erection if I'm too worried about do I look silly, am I trying too hard, and i get also the fear of being afraid etc. But I'm always able to bring it back after about 5 or 10 mins and complete the encounter.

During normal sex, this girl just kinda lies there and pants with an open mouthed expression, and does not participate much. That's what's making me nervous and worry. If I give her oral, she makes a lot of noise and wiggles around. If I fuck her very hard and fast she also makes a lot of noise and grabs at me with her hands. Otherwise no matter what I'm doing she generally just lies there. If i tie her up by the wrists she tends to pant and wiggle a little more.

The part that weirds me is when I attempt to initiate a blow job. She will sometimes give a very flat refusal, with BJ's about half the time. Sometimes I push through that and guide her towards my cock and she will participate and do a decent if brief job. Recently i smeared a cupcake on it and told her to clean it up snd she did Fine. She claimed that she had a bad experience where some guy made her throw up and she got a throat infextion. But she's clearly able to do it.

I don't even really like bjs and before trp I wouldn't have cared about this but now I'm all worried because trp taught me that means I'm not being effectively dominant or she doesn't like me or something....what's the correct interpretation?

Possible interpretations:

  • she's being a bitch?

  • I need to be more confident in these actions? (Via practice I guess? )

  • I am being too beta bux?

  • there is some technique I need to know? I need to ask her to be more active in sex?

  • she is just not very attracted to me?

  • she is just a very lazy girl who expects sex to be a thing done to her?

  • I should just keep going and take it slow and it will be fine?

I don't care about this girl in particular but I do care if my general woman handling style is wrong somehow. That's what makes me nervous.

Serious replies appreciated.