So I’ve visited TRP from time to time have always found solid shit on here. My game and frame overall has improved considerably in the past year and now I’m working on maximizing my opportunities which has been pretty enjoyable.

With that said, I’m looking to see if maybe I’m missing something in my current situation with a plate. I’ve definitely been her top option for a few months but it looks like I recently fucked up my frame and lost my place. Normally I’d say fuck it and move on.

But why throw something out well before its expiration date? The way I see it this is a good chance to work on reestablishing frame (a learning experience for the longterm) while at the same time getting a few more dates/lays with someone I enjoy. I have other hookups but this girl is one of the better ones and knows what I like (probably LTR material if I was looking for that) so it seems I can have my cake and it eat too with a little self improvement.

My main slips in frame have been in spending too much time communicating my terms instead of acting on them and also seeming over-invested.

What I mean by that is that its obviously better to quickly act when your standards haven’t been met but instead I verbally communicated too many times which might have come across as lacking in conviction (ex. She wasn’t being consistent with our meet ups and instead of just brushing her off for a while and letting her reflect on her behavior I would bring it up at our next meeting and tell her that it wasn’t good enough for me etc. She would apologize and everything but I should’ve more forceful in ignoring her if she wasn’t going to respect my time. In retrospect I think I deviated from my norm because I've known her longer and felt I could be more expressive, fuck that).

With regard to over-investment, I was switching jobs and had extra free time for a week or two plus my roommates were on vacation so I wanted to maximize time my hookups, her included. I probably came across as too available which is normally fine since she’s into it but she had her own shit going on and it didn’t sit well.

Right now she’s in another state for a vacation but is coming back in a few days and I want to play my cards right. I got annoyed with her short responses and stopped replying so its already been a while without communication. Normally we chat regularly with flirting/banter (which she would initiate) so I know sure she’s trying to make a point. She's not really that busy so I’m not being unreasonable.

I don't think its a waste of time to analyze a situation, learn from it, and take simple steps to fix it. I want to see what I can do to come out on top and maximize pleasure. If not well its been a good run. Thanks.

TL;DR: Lost my spot as her top option, wasn’t consistent with my frame. Looking to reestablish myself to keep enjoying plate.