Self improvement tips?

Kidterrific · 2021-03-03T02:40:55+00:00

By realizing that life isn’t comfortable, even though you try like hell to make it so.

Look deep into yourself- why do you people please? It’s often because you fear a negative response (learned from childhood) and will sacrifice your needs and wants so the other person could be happy, in essence, trying to control the situation by losing the only thing you can control: yourself.

Say no more often. No is a complete sentence. No explanations. Just say it and if pressed say “I’d rather not, that’s why.” Repeat it if pressed. Doesn’t make you a dick. Makes you more of a person that’s capable of doing things because he wants to, not because he feels he needs to. If they get upset (and they will - you’re suddenly doing something unexpected), EMBRACE THE SUCK. Be nervous and anxious. It will go away the more you realize that nothing will fall apart. In time, you’ll be free of the chains of obligation you somehow burdened yourself with.

There’s no magic here, just hard work and feelings you’ve tried to avoid your whole life. But then again, hard work always leads to amazing results. You don’t have to “not give a shit.” You just have to give more of a shit about yourself. And that comes from putting your needs first.

I’m rooting for you.

ModsCantBanMe2020 · 2021-03-03T02:14:57+00:00

Push your comfort zones.

- Wear some funky glasses next time you go the supermarket

- Sing a song while walking down a busy street

Do lots of small things things, until it becomes a habit and you realize no one actually gives a shit.

ModsCantBanMe2020 · 2021-03-03T03:49:07+00:00

Read No More Mr Nice Guy

Efficient_Film_149 · 2021-03-03T02:16:41+00:00

Anything anyone tells you, or anything you read on here is pointless. You know how to better yourself. If you’re fat- work out. If you’re dumb- study. If you’re poor- research how money works, find a focal point, and work. Work hard on those three things and you’ll never have girl problems. They’ll just magically appear at your doorstep.

As far as people pleasing you’ll realize that the world is cold. No one cares about you except for your parents and handful of friends. Then you’ll realize most of your friends are actually snakes. In some people’s case even their own parents couldn’t give a shit about them. The sooner you realize that it’s you alone in this world the better off you’ll be.

As far as your happiness the best advice I can give you is shut up and stop crying. No one is happy all the time. You grind hard 80%, if not more, of the time to be able to enjoy yourself that 20%. Oh lmao... cross your fingers and hope you’re lucky enough to be healthy on your journey. That’s a fun one too

Life’s not easy. Put in the work

RelucBeam · 2021-03-03T02:15:49+00:00

Find the list of the trp adviced books. E.g. The rational male, no more Mr nice guy, meditations... and read them.
Lift weights and eat well

In my opinion, those are the two non-negotiable foundations

Title	Self improvement tips?
Author	yung_tona
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Comments	18
Date	March 3, 2021 2:05 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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