So much of TRP advice that I've read is centered around detaching onself from wanting the approval of women, but then in the same breath the advice is telling us how to attract women?

Why give a damn how to attract them if their approval doesn't matter? I know this could totally be a me thing, but I don't see the value in women when I don't care what they think. Like, no value at all, not even sexual, as part of my sexual attraction to women is based on the rush I get from the validation of hotties laying down with me(and enjoying themselves).

What am I missing? I'm super new, btw. Thanks for the replies.