Been talking to a girl via text for under a week. Setting up a meeting in the near future, she is a couple towns over and we are busy, I work a lot out of town and she has two kids and also works (the kids don't bother me, I still want to fuck her). She has a boyfriend, I was aware and decided to keep making sex(t)ual advances via text to make it clear I'm not interested in friendship and to hopefully prime her for an actual meeting where I can go to 100. She didn't shoot me down but didn't reciprocate either. I wager she was enjoying it but wouldn't show so she felt better about herself and her relationship values. She starts complimenting me and says she's attracted to me. I figured I was on the right path. I try to coerce her into sending nudes and again, not directly shot down (as in, she doesn't WANT to send them) but shot down with the phrase, and I quote "You know my boyfriend won't appreciate me doing that" At that point, I said "no problem" and went off the radar to think and I got the idea to come here.

Mixed in with my sex(t)ual advances is obvious banter and bullshitting but also some serious conversations. She initiates conversation more often than I do, I took as a good sign. However, she talks a lot about having trouble with her boyfriend. She vents to me a lot. I started to realize I may become a tampon for her feelings and could very well not develop anything with her at all. I also entertained the improbable idea that she is trying to convey that she is ready to be snatched out from under her boyfriends nose by someone better (me)

After "my boyfriend won't appreciate that" text, I tone down all contact and conversation from my end by like 80% (sort of off the radar). I'm just stalling and thinking and wanted some help here to see what a good move is. I do like this girl, I will continue speaking to her but I am not interested in becoming a tampon and will move on if it's apparent that it may be my fate.

So the question/questions I have. Am I barking up the wrong tree here? Should I ignore the "my boyfriend bla bla" text and continue at the risk of looking like a shitbag who breaks up relationships and then be denied anyway? (I wouldn't care if I'm a shitbag who breaks up relationships if the end result is landing her) Even though attraction has been mutually exchanged, am I most definitely the tampon? Should I dip entirely? Am I missing a bigger picture or some obvious signals? Any help is appreciated. I will answer questions for those who need a bigger picture.