Should I move on? Need Advice

I am 19 year old male, found out about TRP about 6 months ago. It has already made a huge difference in my dating life and I was starting to find much more success with women than before as in they actually gave me a chance where they wouldn't before. Anyway it has been hard with covid to meet lots of women so I have only met a few. There is this one girl I met on tinder about a month ago. We spoke on video call a fair bit then met for a walk, then we met again for another walk and it got pretty sexual lots of tension but we did not do anything other than her sitting on me and kissing. Then on the third time meeting her she came to mine and we had sex. Now here's the issue I kept frame and acted in an alpha red pill way for the first 2-3 weeks of knowing her and she was lapping it up then for some stupid reason due to what she was saying I started thinking she was different to most girls and I let my beta side show and showed her weakness and vulnerability. I became too clingy, too committed and gave the vibes I was trying to lock her down into a relationship. We both said we don't know what we are looking for at the moment and we will just keep seeing each other and figure it out.

Yesterday, she came out and said she felt like I wanted a relationship and was enjoying things more than she was and she did not want a relationship and she was telling me because she did not want to hurt me. She also said she still wanted to see me and finds me attractive but felt like she had to tell me (she seems to actually care about not hurting guys). Anyway, I tell her that I was being overly keen because I thought she liked it and it's not me, I also told her I was not looking for a relationship right now and was still unsure what I want. I told her we should keep seeing each other and keep having sex and see if our feelings change and she agreed - I also told her I thought there was potential between the two of us. I am hoping If I stop messaging her first and start acting alpha again then she will want to commit to me and loose her desire to explore other options. Right now she has a desire to see other people apparently and doesn't want to be locked down but at the moment she is not seeing anyone else as I told her I won't fuck her if she is fucking other guys. Although only a few months ago she was in a relationship so I know she has it in her.

Am I wasting my time thinking If I give her space and stop acting beta she will change her mind and actually want to be with me? Or is this unrealistic and the relationship is a doomed. Also I am struggling to not think about her because of covid I don't have much going on in my life so shes really the only new and exciting thing. How do I stop being a pathetic depressed slob?

How would you guys proceed? Am I messing up here? I am only young need advice.

Thank you.

TL DR: Girl was very keen on me but said she didn't know what she wanted. I acted beta and too keen now she's saying she doesn't want a relationship. I said give it more time feelings might change, she agreed. Is this stupid?

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[–]Sufficient_Memory_822 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Hahahaha you have an amazing physique for your age. You remind me of my autistic blue pilled younger self. What you should do is practice on other girls! On the meanwhile you can bang her. This relationship is doomed and will only get worse . But if you wanna give in to your severe oneitis (you are 19 afterall you should learn through failure) I can give you some tips. Don't tell her anything . She will think you are a tryhard since you lost frame already! Start rebuilding attraction. Fuck her good and be dominant. Let her initiate conservation more. Like 70%. After a few weeks use some dread game ( drop some hints but nothing extreme) start disappearing a bit after that... Focus on fb or insta last online. Try to show that you spent the night doing something fun.. like last online 9 at night. If you start disappearing she will notice believe me. Your attention is your weapon use it wisely .after that reward her with attention if she is chasing you. after a few weeks she is all yours but drama will start again and you will loose frame again but w/e you want man Ps sorry for my bad English

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[–]ibwriting2 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

On my 19th birthday I found this sub.

I'm 23 as on now, honestly I've gone through dating apps in this BS of a situation and when I get home it's always the same thing and it's gotten boring. Honestly READ THE SIDE BAR! The books as well it's a good time to understand these things and such because when things open up girls are gonna be even crazier. I would start with getting the girls on dating and getting them in front of you ASAP that's what most guys lack in terms of online dating. It's an in and our process. These bitches are bored more than ever, can you bring that fun and appeal to their emotions?

I wouldn't say just fuck lots of women because even at this age i'm fucking bored of women. It's cool and yeah but most guys at your age lack the ability to have a conversation with women or even anyone for that case. If you have 40-50 hours to talk to a girl why not learn how to do something? I'm at this point in my opinion as that since covid a majority of people who don't know jack shit or are lazy will get lazier. You'll get over the fantasy after you get a couple of girls under the belt and realize a majority of them are the same and or don't bring much to the table.

I had a dope plate for about a year or so, she would try really hard to get me to commit and I had school/work and music to be doing, eventually it fell off. The sex was great she was feminine and everything incels want in abitch. After it was over it kinda sucked, though I had this thought "is that all there is to women?" i mean in terms of just sex on demand was seeing other girls and such and it all kinda clicked then. Though I was still unhappy in a way because I wasn't where I was at in life where I wanted to be. That was about a year before covid started, I worked out, took care of my diet and saved money, cut out bs people and things. Then when started to date again the common thing became "i find you so sexually attractive" not trying to humble brag but some of these girls are just down for anything. After you kinda get to that point you mind becomes clearer that validation from women doesn't matter when you're getting laid. It only matters when you're thirsty and no options. You then take that into other aspects in life and you can then make big boy decisions like what girl you wanna settel with and if this girl is worth a damn.

Sorry for the long post but just some thoughts i've been asking myself over the last two and so years.

I am working my way through the side bar, I have almost finished reading the manipulated man.

To be fair to me I am good at getting them in person quickly I tend to ask to meet tomorrow etc I just don't get that many matches and of the matches only 10-20% will actually meet me.

I just have ADHD and struggle to work Its a motivation thing, I'm working on it.

When you say get a few girls under your belt do you mean just fucking them or relationship?

Also for me, If I have a few girls on the side or girls I know are interested in me stops me being a beta and makes me not give a fuck the problem with this girl is i had no side things to distract me.

Also why did you not give her the commitment?

Btw I appreciate the long posts, I am however not 100% sure what you mean when you say "after you kinda get to that point"

Finally, you never said how i can utilise my physique?

Sorry for the long post.

[–]ibwriting1 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Relationships ehh you should get some experience under your belt.

Your life is the main bitch, the girls are the side girls.

Honestly, I had to take time off from school, because of family issues. My grandfather died that year of a heartattack, my grandma was falling ill because of old age and the whole "fuck i have to deal with real life shit rn" thing was kinda a bummer. Plus on top of that my goals and such were much the only time I had to besides all that while working Uber at the time. I liked the girl no doubt she was cool and her family was dope though it would be better if I did what I had to do and she did as well. I didn't want to get into a serious relationship with all the shit going on in my life at the time. It sucked because she took it in a bad way and whatever. I remember she had a drinking problem as well shortly afterward and ended up in the hospital but whatever.

I have a slight amount of ADHD as well but I think that's induced by myself though learning to focus is a huge deal.

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