So I’ve been talking to this girl for a few weeks. Had a very successful first date but things got a little weird over the next week or so. We’d still talk from time to time but we were both busy with finals and it was hard to make concrete plans. The night before everyone left for Christmas break, I was out with some friends for a bar tab. We ended up at the bar she works at later that night (college town , fairly small bar district). She gave me shots and then ran out from behind the bar and said “ I just have to give you a hug rn”. Chatted for a few mins and then I asked if she’d be down to hang out after she got off and if she could pick me up. She was down.

Texted her after the bars closed, no response. Called, no answer. Then 10 mins or so later she posted an Instagram story. At this point I was over it. Went home the next day and over the course of the next couple days, we’d snap once and then I’d get left on open. I ended up leaving her on open 3 days in a row to see if she’d just keep trying to snap me, which she did. Eventually responded and she saw that I got a haircut and was out with my friends and got all flirty again. That same night I drunkenly called her out for blowing me off. She apologized and said she didn’t get off till 4 or 5 that night and that her phone had died while they were cleaning up. Didn’t really buy the story at all.

Talked a bit the next day and she got all flirty again and kept the conversation going. Left me on open to go out with her friends & then messaged me when she got back. I’ve been fairly distant today and haven’t tried to communicate much at all. Should I just soft-next for being blown off and the mixed signals afterwards?

We pretty much have to rely on snap & text for the next 3 weeks or so cause we’re 5-6 hours away from each other until we’re back at Uni.