I met this cute, sexy 24 year old at work about a year ago. My game was strong at first but I became infatuated after making her blush multiple times. I asked for her number and she said "hmm my number? Let's start with my email". I was an overconfident, infatuated fool so I gladly settled for her email "knowing" I would eventually get her number because I felt a "connection". From that point onward, I impulsively switched my strategy from smooth playboy to loyal beta. I got too serious and clingy which scared her away for a while.

Eventually she started emailing me again and randomly gave me her phone number. However, she was still apprehensive about going out on a date with me. I finally took her out, caught her checking me out sexually multiple times but couldn't even land a kiss at the end of the night. She said it was a "big step".

This chick has some serious trust issues and social anxiety. I get the feeling that she has a promiscuous past but blames it on men misleading her. She's told me that she can be very horny and freaky but "only in a relationship". She also has a lot of baggage from her past relationship. Her ex is "very attached" to her family (namely her mother) and he still comes around. She claims the break up was bad but they remain friends. She claims they're not friends with benefits, but I don't believe for a second that they don't still fuck at least every now and then.

Later I ask her if her ex is trying to get back with her and she says yes but she doesn't wanna get back with him. She says she still has "too much care" for her ex to even move on now. According to her, it's not exactly "feelings" but she kinda feels like she owes him due to some undisclosed issue he helped her out with in the past.

She's in a very complicated place in her life right now and so we agreed not to take it any further. I told her I'm not interested in being friends because my romantic feelings are too strong. But she still texts me to say hello and talk.

I believe that I sabotaged my chances of fucking her early on due to my impulsive switch from smooth playboy to loyal beta. I caught a serious case of oneitis most likely due to my lack of steady sex and options at the moment. I would like to hear you guys' take on this situation. Should I stop conversing with her through text when she writes me or should I continue to converse with her? I get the feeling that I may still have a remote chance to at least fuck her lol.