Should one ever explicitly inform a plate that there are other girls?

abdada · 2016-05-03T01:12:26+00:00

Women always ask me if I have a girlfriend. My response is always "a few, they're solid."

If she steps up to the plate, she'll know where she falls in the lineup. All my LTRs started as plates who knew their status in the circle.

LTRs are grown in a field of other crops, only the best ones are harvested long term.

keepmymangoqueen · 2016-05-03T02:56:30+00:00

The problem with lying is you set up this dynamic where she 'catches' you. Even if you mostly don't care, on some level you will and will try to cover your tracks, which is no way to live.

In your case, you're pretty far from having to talk explicitly. You can just say you're busy. Don't apologize for being busy. Don't reward the whining directly but make a note that she needs some maintenence or will break (e.g. you may just have to make time for her soon if you want to keep her spinning).

A good foundation helps with this, women should know from the start you're a busy man just by how to conduct yourself, talk about your life, etc. Imagine you're interviewing and the CEO wants to talk to you, while scheduling you're just going to assume he's a busy man when he offers you two 20 minute time slots and sends emails from his cell phone. Like that

blacwidonsfw · 2016-05-03T01:05:39+00:00

If she asks point blank "are you seeing other people" answer "yes".
If she says "why are you so busy and never have time for me?". Answer, "just keeping it low key and focusing on priorities".

At a deeper level girls know when you are seeing other people they can tell pretty easily by how you carry yourself. So if she gives you a half ass question she just wants you to give her a narrative to go along with. If a girl actually wants the truth she will ask directly, then refer to #1.

MattyAnon · 2016-05-03T01:43:59+00:00

Subcommunicate it, try not to lie, don't be explicit unless you really have to.

Sir_Distic · 2016-05-03T02:21:59+00:00

Do YOU want them to know?

Personally I tell them up front there will be no LTR and I'm only looking for casual. I've had a few walk because of that. That's fine. I don't want those girls.

Title	Should one ever explicitly inform a plate that there are other girls?
Author	marianasentmenudes
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Comments	5
Date	May 3, 2016 12:44 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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