Should we break up?

[deleted] · 2014-05-06T03:43:07+00:00

u/DontBeAMangina, Take advice from your own username.

Everyone here seems to be all soft and shit. Give her up lad. Confront yourself out of this Snowflake mentality. If you are having this much trouble trying to keep a girl, you already lost the Red Pill mentality you claim to have. All I could think while reading this is, Wow- this guy is insecure over the natural nature of women.

If you aren't happy in your LTR- fucking work hard, get on a good diet, run and work out, and raise up that self esteem mate. Do what most of us have to do.... LEARN from your mistake. You know damn good and well that all of this is only going to get better if you go monk mode and get your shit back on track. Cut all ties if you have to.

If she doesn't understand and want to come back after you rebooted your manhood, then you didn't need her anyway. Lose the scarcity mentality.

[deleted] · 2014-05-05T23:01:27+00:00

It's ultimately up to you. We won't be able to evaluate this girl and even if we could, we wouldn't be able to predict what she'll do in the future.

If it were me (which I have no desire to be unemployed again, so I hope it won't be me in the future), I would. Relationships are meant for people at their best, and if you slink into a depressive state because of it, it'll damage both of you.

[deleted] · 2014-05-06T00:48:37+00:00

When I lost my very high paying job in September, I did not break up with my girlfriend, who was a psychologist in Boston. I tried to keep it going, but it ended badly because I didn't do what I needed to.

Up to you. I'd break it off nicely and just do you.

[deleted] · 2014-05-06T16:57:43+00:00

First off, glad you're posting, always good to ask questions and have us assholes rip your situation to shreds and build you back up.

we're both red pillers (for about a year) and we both have realistic goals.

I'm worried that she will succumb to her hypergamy

You're kinda contracting yourself right there man. If she understands her nature, then why should you worry about her hypergamy? Stop talking to try to have us prop up your weak mentality. What you're subconsciously trying to do is rationalize and talk away your insecurities, when it's just magnifying them to someone looking at the situation from above.

You're pedestaling, worrying, and are creating barriers to situations that haven't happened yet. She'll respond, feel the fear, and then go to a guy who doesn't give a fuck (either behind your back or break up).

Who cares?

I've found that when I sucked in bed, fear and doubt was in my mind whenever things would go sideways in my life.

I found when she was cumming out the ears in bed, it didn't matter if my situation was shit as hell, or if I was doing well. Her body was mine when I wanted, and we loved spending time with each other.

The insecurity is bred from not owning your life situation (good or bad) and being fearful that someone in your corner might betray you. Why would you want someone in your corner who would cause issues...meaning your own mind. Sounds like she's an ok person and you need to get your mind straight about things.

best of luck.

captainbloodd · 2014-05-06T17:19:43+00:00

If you're not having any problems with her, I see no reason to let her go. You lost your job, so what? You're doing what you think needs to be done to rectify the situation.

The best thing to do is maintain your frame while you're rebuilding. Always be in control of the relationship. Don't ask her what she thinks you should do, don't vomit your feels or get down on yourself in front of her. Always have the frame of "I know what I'm doing" at all times. Keep fucking her good too.

Do all this and you and her will have a happy relationship. If she decides to walk, that's fine. Let her go and go get yourself some fresh puss.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-05-06T00:23:01+00:00

Why would you break up because she 'might' cheat? You are overthinking this completely. Stop your male hamster and think it logically. Fake your frame if you must but I just don't get giving up for this reason.

If you WANT to give up and dump that bitch then go for it. But quiet your hamster and go about this logically like a man.

afcpoop · 2014-05-06T01:09:02+00:00

I thought redpill was about not needing money. Ops post sounds more betabux than anything. Op, you should use this event to actually be redpill and not the provider. Tough shit if ypu camt provide for her

aguy01 · 2014-05-06T00:58:52+00:00

Only if you have other girls that are DTF.

LS_D · 2014-05-06T02:38:26+00:00

Saying you are "both Red Piller's' is a load bro.

RP is a state of mind that actions follow ... If your SMV has dropped remarkably in 2-3 weeks ,, it was an illusion in the first place

SMV is not defined by income or any other specific thing ... you know ,, "don't put all your eggs in one basket"

why do you "have to" go back to school?" ... in the hope you will succeed and eventually make more money? You're dreaming!

Fortunately you're young so you have time to grow ,, but there's no point doing something for imaginary results ... if your work 'defined' you then you must do something you love ,, or you're just going to devolve.

An amiable split might just give you the room you need to make some decisions which only affect you for the better

Foundations are the basis of your growth so make them good

drrtyfrrnr · 2014-05-06T10:21:50+00:00

Girls date dudes with no jobs and no money all the time. I don't see why you have to be different. Is she dating you or your title/paycheck?

Keep up the alpha, don't let her into your troubles without a fight, and keep busy with your hustle. It'll be ok.

Red_Work · 2014-05-06T14:14:51+00:00

Ask yourself this, am I in a relatiinship? If the answer is yes, then break it off. If no, you have nothing to break up with. Edit: fuck tablet keypads

redpillshadow · 2014-05-05T23:30:41+00:00

we're both red pillers

What does that even mean in this case? Is she a RPW who will stay at your side or some hypergamy slut you cannot keep?

harder to maintain frame. I don't have as much time, money for her

If money and time is your frame I doubt that either of you are redpill.

Title	Should we break up?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	9
Comments	30
Date	May 5, 2014 10:42 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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