There have been some posts here recently a long the lines of "what's the point?" ... they've found their game works well and they have banged heaps of chicks but they're still yearning for more, some form of satisfaction other than just spinning plates.

This is quite common and why you'll find a number of the more experienced members here are in LTR's. For me, at the end of the day, I love to be with a woman who 'gets me' and compliments my life and I don't mind having strong feelings for these girls (usually one at a time these days!) This is 'the point' for me as I only find these girls occaisionly whilst I have to "try the others" to find out if I want to continue whatever's happening between us.

I quite like a 'general monogamy' ... one of my favorite gf's who I was with for 3 yrs (until she returned to her country) cheated on me twice, BUT I too cheated on her twice, so we DGAF as we has a really honest relationship, she came and woke me up to tell me she'd fucked someone else the night before, which pleasantly surprised me as I realized she knew I wouldn't arc up or get pissed off, and so she came over and I sat down with her and smoked some grass and talked about it a bit, then we fucked each others brains out for the next few hours and agreed that, we really did have big feelings for each other. We were very close and honest with each other and the intimacy was great. SO in my book she didn't 'cheat', she just fucked someone else, and I'm not phased by that, but I'd be pissed off if I found out 'much later from someone else' She was a HB10+ that went off like a rocket in bed, but I satisfied her like no one else could which is one reason she stuck around. The other was we really had a great time together, Whenever we'd go clubbing or to a party, our rule was we'd go our own way at the front door and have fun, BUT if either of us wanted to go, the other would join tthem, no questions asked AND always at the end of an evening, we'd be going home together!

She'd always be mobbed by guys trying to chat her up, and I'd occaisionally walk by and slap her arse really hard and just keep on walking by, and you should have seen the looks on the guys faces, or I might come up and just grab her from behind if I saw some guy who was laying it on thick, and I'd put my head on her shoulder and say "G'day, howzitgoin?" and the looks on their faces was priceless as I groped her tits or sucked her neck (to a giggle) and then just walked away!

Sometimes I'd find her spying on me to see who I was talking to, as like all the girls I'd been with, it hadn't taken long to bed them, usually a few hours!

One problem I've found with giving somewhat sexually inexperienced partners, the greatest (multiple) orgasms of their life, is they can get to wondering "are all/other guys this good?" which can lead to them 'experimenting' which is what I call what this girl did. Later I had a 23yo virgin who's curiousity got the better of her and when I was in prison she fucked my barrister! Bitch. Although, I'm confident that was a one off, for several reasons, as she was one of the most staunch gf's I've had in some ways, and one of those things was she'd never lie to me, which is how I found out about the lawyer! In fact if not for her mother I would have stayed with her.

But they ALL know two things, I wont get jealous or violent becoz I picked them up so easily they know I have my pick of girls if I want, so 'dread' was never needed as my nature implied it was always on the cards. They'd also heard a few of my stories of ex's, which made that clear

It's not oneitis, it's the search for "intimacy" and that bond people caan share. I have this same bond with a few of my male friends, but although I don't fuck them, I 'feel' as close to them (if not closer) than many females I've known,

These days I try to be with girls who fit my highly selective criteria, which includes me being able to feel 'intimate' with them as this gives me a kind of 'not so sexual' erection which I call "affection erections" ... you know, you're just cuddling on the couch watching a movie and for various reasons that moment, you 'feel and love' your gf in a way that just makes you want to fuck her GOOD! And it's always been mutual when I crack an affection erection, as if her pheremones have got to me or something! Or sometimes when waking up and it's just sooo cozy and she feels sooo good, and it's not 'lust', it's something else and I really like it!

The only sad bit is, I have never had a gf this lasted for more than 2+yrs ... but I think that was mainly my 'committment issues' and I was a terrible flirt which didn't help. especially as all these girls had fucked me within hours of meeting me ("I never do this with guys I don't know" moan! ... lol)

the possibilities are vast

I see lots of guys here asking "Is it 'beta' to do x&y?" or "how would an Alpha go about dealing with this?" and similar questions.

The thing is, these 'traits' we affectionately call here 'Alpha' and "beta' are nothing more than an 'attitude' ... it's the way a person deals with a situation which 'makes it either alpha, beta'

As such, there are no specifically 'alpha' or 'beta' behaviours and if you've read enough of the sidebar, you will have seen that to maintain a happy LTR the man must be able to 'balance and temper' some of their 'alpha-ness' and at times, must be able to be the kind, thoughtful, understanding and empathetic 'beta' every woman needs every now and then (even the most RP 'first mates!)

And true 'alphas' are in no way lessened by having gentle caring sides, they are polite when necessary, they have no 'need' to be arrogant as their self confidence comes from hard work and effort, not bullshit flashy possesions and and cheap words, however, that said, they won't be walked over or allow some woman to talk shit and will retain frame regardless of the shit going on around them.

BUT, we are only human, and sometimes even the hardest of us break down and cry. That's ok. You think the most alpha dude in the world won't cry at the loss of a truly close loved one? Showing such feeling yet not letting them rock your world to pieces is the mark of a man.

It's ALL ABOUT how well you pick yourself up, wipe away the tears and learn to smile again which counts. And alphas abound with empathy becoz they can afford to! It's not like they're going to lose anything by telling another person they've done really well, with work, their gf, whatever.

The true "Alpha" has no 'competition' and hives no fucks about irrelevant opinions ... And to him, other Alphas are colleagues! and they don't 'look down upon' betas, they just feel a kind of sadness that their bros are behaving that way becoz they know no better ... we all wish they would come around to RP ideology! We'd have alot better quality 'average male' if they did, and I'm sure most of them would be much happier, as would the women they associate with!

Some guys will be the 'standard' beta bux when dealing with women BUT might have the most hardcore 'alpha' attitude when at work. Essentially being 'alpha or beta' is your state of mind! Sometimes the opposite is true, but it's rare!

TL:DR: Being 'alpha' is an attitude, it's all in your head, RP ideology just wants you to achieve the best you that you can be, and odds on in doing so, you too will begin to "feel alpha" and begin to reap the benefits of doing so!

BTW these aren't the only two ways of being, they are just good axamples of the extremes, but as you'll learn here, the 'best guys' are a mix of the two traits in varying degrees depending upon the circumstances. Particularly in LTR's they'd like to maintain. When spinning plates, it's best to keep it simple and have a mainly alpha frame, time and her actions will show you when variations would be helpful

Here's a great tale of some Alpha males joining ranks .... see if you can spot the weak link!

I just thought you guys might be interested in the ways of certain types of alpha males ... and it shows how these guys know when to 'tone it down' and 'betafy' themselves as required, but make NO mistake, when an Alpha chooses to behave in a 'beta' fashion, that in no way lessens his 'Alphaness', if anything it increases it as it shows how little they care about other people's opinions becoz doing so in no way compromises their natural self esteem.

I hope you enjoyed this and that it cleared up this alpha, beta, sigma, enigma, a little for some of the newer RPers

BTW: > Look at all the different personalities from alpha to beta that these guys had to cycle through to get this robbery done!

http://archive.wired.com/politics/law/magazine/17-04/ff_diamonds?currentPage=all