Social anxiety problems

raisins3142 · 2017-01-08T06:58:46+00:00

The only way to get over social anxiety is to make yourself be social despite the anxiety and do this over and over. Don't try it once and it doesn't work out great and go lick your wounds.

No, keep doing it over and over until you become desensitized to it.

This is the only way.

mcr00sterdota · 2017-01-08T08:58:44+00:00

The only way to get through social anxiety is exposure, chuck yourself in the deep end. Get a job in sales/retail that forces you to interact with customers.

Hershiekopper · 2017-01-08T07:00:17+00:00

Hey Im 19 and have ADHD and crazy social anxiety. I would not enter any building if i new people from school there, i would always opt to wait in the car when i was a kid etc. I have improved drastically but mostly due to a change in scenery aka Univeristy. I have two huge suggestions tho 1) Go to your doctor and talk to him about your anxiety and ask him for solutions. I did this and was put on Cipralex last year and MY GOD it changed me! Suddenly, my fears of being noticed and judged disappeared. 2) Get really good at a skill. Im a multi-instrumentalist and am in a psychedelic rock band and produce, write and record my own music that im proud of. Being Proud of yourself and what you have to offer is huge. And when it comes to social stuff. I went from having mostly guy friends in highschool to mostly girl friends in university and got to know the female mind a bit better. Don't say too much and definately dont say stuff just for the sake of filling the air with sound. Dude relax and take it easy. Go up to those girls like the baller you are and exude confidence being like "This is why im gonna be the one fucking you". and even if you fuck up a line or convo never admit it or back out just roll with it. Miles davis said if you play a wrong note, play it twice. I think that sums up how to fix slips in convos very well

TheWizardofBaghdad · 2017-01-08T10:04:51+00:00

There is some good practical advice here but in order to fully get over your social anxiety you need to identify where it stems from e.g. childhood. Most of the time anxiety and other problems come from a deeper place within

vorverk · 2017-01-08T11:20:34+00:00

You lift, to get bigger muscles.
You play guitar, to get better at playing guitar.
You learn math, to get better at math.

Guess what you have to do to become more social?

It's a slow process, you will fail and beginnings are the hardest. But you just have to go out and DO it. No theory or book will help you as much as practice. Invite yourself to every social, sport, culture, party e.g. event that you can. Interact with as many people as possible. And go slow at first, so you don't freak out. And don't beat yourself too much if you fail. Even the best ones fail from time to time.

AnArousedJeff · 2017-01-08T17:15:09+00:00

You just need a DGAF attitude. I mean, nobody really cares, or at least it doesn't matter. Just let things go, the world's not gonna end with a minor mistake from you. Just know everybody else is also feeling nervous.

Title	Social anxiety problems
Author	vilan22
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Date	January 8, 2017 6:35 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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