I've been seeing this girl lately. I took her virginity a week ago. So this night we watched a movie and went over to her place. She was resisting a bit, but gave in. However, she insisted that she has her periods and it still hurts so she didn't want sex tonight. I tried a bit, but I understood.

So i tell her to give me a BJ a 2nd time so I can finish off. Then she tells me will I eat eat her out (not shaved- chinese girl) and I said no. Then she outright refused the BJ. I got (not visibly) upset, got up and left. This is the 2nd time I've done this to her. The first time was when she initially wouldn't put out, so I went no-contact for a week. both times she was really sad and wouldn't let me leave. She re-initiated and gave me her virginity with no resistance after the 1st soft next.

Should I have not left like that? Should I contact her in a few days?

I'm very outcome independent and I felt like she was trying to bring me into her frame. But I also heard her side of the argument, whereby she thinks I always demand things, and that if she doesn't give in then I just leave (and that its not fair to her).

My goals = I'm open to both plates and/or LTR depending on the girl.

Appreciate your feedback.