hi ,this is my first post here,i would like to apologize for my english ,it's not my native language.

my question is this, how to better control your emotions and how to build self confidence.

my lack of self confidence is affecting my life terrebly. im also controled by my emotions. and can get depressed very easily. i have tried a psychologist but it didnt really help(went there for a year, didnt see results). i already lift. and read the sidebar. and no more mr nice guy.

this was always the case with me but it seems that the older i get the worse it gets. i will never accomplish anything major if all i do is hate my self and judge my self for every little mistake.

i have no idea what to do, i dont enjoy anything,and im fighting the urge to become a loner. im on my way to a good degree in stem, and i have girl HB 5-7 hit on my in the past (now i dont get out much...) even when i get a green light from a girl i manage to make it into a red light, im bitter , and i dont enjoy hanging out with people like i used to, and they can tell. the only thing i want right now is to be more realistic with my feeling of self, and not to think im a complete loser for no apparent reson.