i just found the sub reddit, and I am familiar with both books the 48 Laws of Power and the Art of Seductipn, also reading some of the recommended reading, so I wanted to test out some of the theory in "the field."
So I was at the club, and it was a pretty intimate one, so it was smaller and you could talk to people a little easier and notice your surroundings. So I thought I saw a girl looking at me, she was with her friend, and I figured "why the heck not?" And asked if she wanted a drink while I was grabbing one, she gave me the "come back in an hour" because she pre gamed. I was like whatever fine, I'll go elsewhere for an hour and come back if nothing else really panned out. Talked to a few friends that were ladies to see if I could generate interest just in general. Then I was near the bar and there's a bit of a line going and I was close with some friends so I decided "I'll ask her again because I don't wanna wait in that line again"
So I see two beta orbiters around, I felt this would be my move, to build some SMV with her if I pushed them to the side and talked to her, it would display persistence and self confidence that I was not phased by other guys being around her. She was a little hesitant at first, but I was persistent that I would just get her one drink. So she caved and I ended up getting her a drink. She was with her friend so she kept getting pulled to the side by her when I was getting acquainted. She did a "be right back" thing and the first time I sat there and waited for like a minute and we talked briefly where we were from, and what brought us here and all of that. Her friend pulls her to the side again. This time I say whatever, so I leave to go to the bathroom and talk to my friend, and I decided that I would just invite her and her friend to an after party and then move on, because there was no way, at least in my mind, that I could have any level of game with her friend constantly yanking her away.
I knew it was a low percentage move, but I tried to do it anyways as a sort of signal that I couldn't really hold a conversation with her anymore because it was tough to have conversations that were in 2 minute frames. I did not want to be rude to her, because I accept that, when females are with friends, they are pretty much conjoined at the hip if there is no male in their circle.
So I go to ask her but she went ice cold on me as soon as she got back, she may have walked by me while I was talking to my friend and stuff. So I pulled the low percentage move and moved on and did other things like enjoy the music, talk to friends, do light game. But her and her friend kept kind of "hovering" and then when I sat down they sat next to me and the friend sat between us but I really didn't want to say anything anymore because I pulled the low percentage move and I felt any more talking would come off as eagerness and desperation, when I wasn't, I was honestly just using new theory learned on here and see where it took me.
So I guess my questions would be, did I read the wrong signals? I accept that I was ignoring her friend. I thought I did a good job of maintaining frame, I wasn't visibly upset that her friend kept separating us from talking. I ended it on an incredibly low percentage move because I grew tired of getting interrupted by the friend. It was more of my out, and me ending the conversation on a sort of "yeah you can show up to this after party, I am totally not expecting you to because of how your friend keeps separating you from me, but at least I can end on me giving you my number and moving on with my life."
Being observant of my surroundings, I noticed a lot of guys found her cute but nobody could do what I did, so could that of been a reason she kept hovering because for some reason my SMV was higher?
Anyways just would like to get some thoughts on how to do a better job, especially in situations where the girl of interest is with a friend.
Tl;dr saw a girl I thought was cute at a club, go up and ask her if she wanted a drink, she politely tells me to wait a little bit, I go do other stuff, come back and ask her again, get a drink, talk, friend keeps interrupting our conversation, I end in on low percentage move deliberately to move on with my life but to leave a door open of sorts. Do other stuff, and talk to other people, but her and her friend keep hovering, I sit alone on a couch her friend sits next to me with her on the other side, I get up walk away after I did my low percentage move. Did I read the signals wrong?
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