Hey, looking for tips.

Here are my stats:

  • 31 years old
  • 7.5/10 on looks (women usually say between 7 and 9)
  • 6'0"
  • no money saved
  • 5lbs overweight (working on abs)
  • top 20% salary bracket, independent contractor (45% saved monthly, so working on it)
  • has car, 1br apartment
  • has dog
  • live three blocks from the main night life scene
  • goes to concerts, plays sports, spends time outdoors

What I Get:

Maybe a 5/10 to a 7/10 every 3 months.

What I Want:

Be able to get a cool-ass girl who is >8/10, no drama.

My surroundings:

  • liberal and butt-hurt over the election
  • cause-driven (environment/science research/humanities crap/new-age pseudo-science)
  • activity driven (clubs, physical activities etc.)
  • hot trustafarian girls
  • art-driven

It used to be you could show a little bit of progressivism and get laid. Now it's just plain fucking unreasonable.

I mostly get shit-tests relating to my social life. I used to host BBQ's, then had drama and friend's peaced out. Some of these acquaintances moved away, others became clear they were just crowding around my happiness at the time. One good friend got out of line with his alcoholism with me by embarrassing me at a place I frequent AND making it totally awkward with this girl who I was flirting with. Some friends got into relationships and really showed how much they prioritize their guy friends that don't improve their immediate standing in the world. Pre-drama, these were the clowns on my third circle of people I'd phone up to a BBQ; first circle was friends, second circle was the women acquaintances, third circle the dudes you only really want as bodies in the room. Anyway, part of me just doesn't give a shit about guy friends who don't want to make money together right now.

I also get shit-tests because my life is very non-standard. I work for myself and I work remotely. I don't deal with the same stress of most people. I live alone, for instance so no roommate drama.

My money situation is related to having ambitions of starting a business and sinking money into a failed first iteration of that. Getting a woman to respect that feels like hiding something terrible like a drug addiction.

I'd say due to have been kicked in the nuts in business a couple times, I don't exude, "alpha". However, in all my risk-taking I've seen it and done it, so I'm definitely not going into some "beta" situation either.

I took down my social media last year because I couldn't tolerate people whining on Facebook. I realize Facebook/Instagram is like a self-PR tool for appearing to be of high worth, and I'm looking like a jackass with only 50 friends on a rebooted account.

Online dating at 31 means you get a lot of sad/desperate/bitter women older than you who want you to have everything together today and will project their bitterness as judgment that you're not perfect (which is really a translation that they fucked up and now they're over the hill to be as picky like that and they know it). I could change my age to be 29... otherwise, the divorcees with children probably are my best bet.

That's about it.