Struggling with a breakup.

jb_trp · 2017-09-01T18:11:26+00:00

You're going through a withdrawl of oxytocin (the chemical your body produces when you're dating). And trust me, it sucks.

Here's my advice: Keep no contact. Block her on FB/Instagram/etc if you haven't done so already. Avoid anything that might trigger you to think about her (if you have to put everything in a box for a while, do it. You can get rid of it when you're ready).

Then, get ready to start something awesome.

Imagine this feeling you have right now as a fire. Fire can be a force for a lot of bad things when it gets out of control. But... Fire can be used for a lot of good when it is controlled. Got it? Take this feeling and use it for good. Re-examine your life. What were you neglecting when you were with this chick? Your body? Hit the gym (you should be doing this any way) and revamp your diet. Neglecting friendships? Reconnect with people who are important to you. Avoiding pursuing your goals? Get that shit sorted out. Use the fire, dude. You get the point. Trust me, you'll feel better.

You said you're bored. Sounds like you need to find some cool hobbies and to find your life goal. Me? I started rock climbing 4 years ago after a really bad breakup, and it's one of the best things I've ever done. I travel around all over the country now, climb cool stuff, and have made a lot of friends. But it took a bad breakup to set me on that path. What do you want to do? Be bored and miserable for the rest of your life?

TRP-Works · 2017-09-01T20:29:51+00:00

Go find something to do, like lift.

Phaz30n3 · 2017-09-02T13:02:16+00:00

Put distance between you and her both mentally (hobbies/lifting/other women/etc.), and physically (don't be anywhere near the ex/don't go places you used to go together, etc). Remove her from your life completely! Eventually you will have developed new mental and physical habits and she will just be your ex(no emotions/no nothing)! No more boredom! No more misery! You will be free of her and able to do what you want (you can see the ex and it wont matter/go somewhere or do something that was special to you both, and now it's just special to you)! I got out of a 4yr LTR, 4 months ago, and feel better every day!!!

Title	Struggling with a breakup.
Author	Barks95
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	September 1, 2017 5:59 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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