I'm either really high energy, up beat, constant spam of jokes. Basically acting like a clown.

Or I'm really super serious, deep voice, no bullshit demenour.

I feel like I need to find a balance but I need help or advice on how to do so.

On the first clown scenario I feel like I get no respect or build no attraction as I'm essentially just a clown. On the second scenario though I feel almost unapproachable / no fun.

What advice can ya'll give me