First off, I want to sincerely thank the TRP Community for their expertise and understanding. I am realizing consciously a lot of the things that I was sensing but was too Beta and AFC to trust in. That is something I truly appreciate, you guys don't get enough genuine appreciation for that. So, overstated or not, I'm making sure you know I mean it from the heart.

\Warning this a going to be a long so if you don't have time check out the question summary at the end of the post.\

Now unto the questions.

But,first, context:

P1: So I naturally carry myself with a lot of confidence (ironic I know). I was born in a pretty rough neighborhood (southward Newark, NJ and spent most of my time on the West Side and plenty more in Bronx), anyway walking through those neighborhoods looking nervous or out of place or even remotely afraid you run a very likely chance of getting jumped or robbed my the high school kids looking for easy prey to get stain (respect and "points" if you will with their fellow gang members and YGs).

P2: Even with a strong frame you still had pretty decent chance of that happening and they do not fight fair. You'll be lucky to fight just 2 people, usually 4 is the number. So that is incentive enough to not look to easy to accost and have your guard up. To get out of that fucked up situation, I enlisted. From that point on, military bearing had instilled me pretty heavily.

P3: So I suppose the mixture of these experiences give me a very confident demeanor just out of the need for survival, especially being a skinny guy (constantly tested, and sometimes the only way out is to deliver or take the ass whopping like a man).

P4: With that said, I often notice women eyeing me out here in Denver. On the light rail, I'd be sitting towards the middle of the car, and an attractive woman would be standing two doors down, and slowly sneak her sneaky ass closer and closer to me, other times her feet and legs be pointed towards me, or I'll hear a faint whisper "He's hot" or "He's sexy," which I don't understand.

P5: I am not big outside of personality or aura. Snaggly bearded, nappy headed with a bald spot from trickotillomania. I am not going to let that impede how I carry myself. (It's just fucking hair, it'll grow back. Not tripping).

P6: But, I still see women pointing their feetknees toward me. Throwing open loops my way hoping somehow I'd bite and initiate. That prolonged eye contact from across the train car. I often look out the train window, and contemplate and plan my next and where's my life going or melodies that I want to try out and piece together once I get back home or how my brothers who still live in Newark are doing and if they are safe or song idea or story line (my mind's a jungle), and I'll catch a woman eyeing over her shoulder, women playing with their hair as I enter the train and walk pass to find a seat; just little things like that but I notice it.

P7: Problem? Frame. I was mistakingly thinking I had to bring something to table. I never felt like I was good enough, like I was too broken or simply too broke and couldn't afford her or how she might think I was weird when she ultimately finds out I don't have a phone (damned things are so fragile). Either way it's weak frame and I get that (studying like a monk).

P8: I was thinking what I had to do for her to want me and not just going for what I want, and fucking all the other bullshit. I know better now. But, still, I don't pull the trigger. I don't make the approach and see it where it goes.

P9: Why? From what I sense, I'm clueless as to what to say. In Newark, it's pretty popular (and surprisingly successful from an onlookers POV) to just be like "Let me talk to you real quickfor a minuteinsert time constraint of shortest syllabic count of choice here," whilst either motioning for her to come to you or taking her hand leading her into your intimate space. My thing is, where the do I go from there? I guess routines, but that seems too disjointed or disingenuous, as if she could sense something is up (could be wrong there). But that's where I run into the wall. Right when I'm physically ready to go make that approach, and start to get excited and happy and macadelic in my mood, my mind reminds me of that I don't have a fucking clue what to say. It's very frustrating and it's time fix that.

P10: If possessing a strong frame, radiant confidence (if by no other means perceived confidence at least), why can't one just trust their innate inner senses of the women's interest and just be casual and open and direct with my sexual intentions. We're both grown, and if there's a trend of impulsive behavior in the air anyway, wouldn't the easy-going, honest-boldness serve me more positively than the indirect, covert means of game would ? Would that approach pretty much shit on her shit test since at that point I'm not engaging in them?

TL;DR: Summarized Questions List:

  1. If possessing a strong frame, radiant confidence (if by no other means perceived confidence at least), why can't one just trust their innate inner senses of the women's interest and just be casual and open and direct with my sexual intentions ?

  2. Wouldn't easy-going, honest-boldness serve me more positively than the indirect, covert means of game would ?

  3. Is game covert or deceivingly overt?

  4. Does appearance matter as much as the feeling inside my soul in terms of attraction?

  5. Am I reading too much into the signals I've been perceiving from the encounters in P6?

  6. How bold can one generally be when making a pass at woman? Heir on the side of caution or danger?