I started hanging out with this girl again that I used to date. We've hung out a couple times now since talking again(all in public places). Nothing extreme happening, just making conversation, making her laugh. Although the last time we hung out, we made out before going our separate ways(we had met up for food). She recently texted me and in short said "I cant stop thinking about us, but I'm scared of it blowing up again. I dont want to waste our time either." I tried to be casual about it, waiting till the next day to respond saying, "Let's just continue hanging out and see where it goes. I dont want to make anything official right now." She responded rather quick with saying, " Yeah & im not asking to make anything official. But I'm also not going to waste my time, especially knowing our past." I didnt respond to this as I was busy with college and work. So she sent another message in the morning saying, "So by the no response imma go with we are wasting our time. No hard feelings just glad we got that cleared up before I invested too much." To give some backstory, this girl and I met back in high school and at the time I was looking for work, so she got me a job where she worked. We spent a lot of time together in that environment and ended up dating. Everything went fairly well during the summer time, but when school picked back up it got all fucked up. Both of us were really busy between work and school. So busy that our relationship got put on the back burner, but we were still around each other a lot at work. She got promoted to assistant manager and that's when it all went to hell. That power went straight to her head. At this point in my life I was most definitely a beta, and her orbiter. I fed her addiction for attention. The 'nice guy' even; putting my own needs aside for hers. She took advantage of this at work, knowing that she had power over me there. Our conversations became very dry outside of work and that led to her searching for that kind of attention elsewhere. She would flirt with the other guy employees in front of my face, knowing it would irritate me. And would later deny it when I confronted her on it. This continued and our relationship spiraled. We got in a huge fight and broke up, and not too long after I quit and got a new job. It had been about a year since we talked last, I spent most all of that time bettering myself. Staying in the gym, focusing on school, learning how to put my own needs before others' and gaming other women. She texted me out of nowhere one day apologizing for being a crazy bitch. I said thanks for apologizing. She apologized a second time about a week later, admitting her faults and apologizing for taking advantage of me as well as telling me she missed me. I thought to myself, "maybe she actually changed. I'll see if she wants to hang out and see where it goes". Which brings it to where I am now. I dont know how to approach this situation that I'm in now. Whether it would be better to drop this girl and move on, or if there's something worth salvaging here. As I used to be really into this girl and my family liked her too. Side note, this girl and I had never slept together. But since breaking up I have hooked up with two other girls on multiple occasions. And it would be nice to fuck this girl as I never got the chance to before.