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Text her first?

Ronaldo-CR7- · 2018-05-19T23:41:31+00:00

Hey TRP, I've fucked this plate two times now and we've gotten lunch 5 days ago. I can tell she's into me but she hasn't texted me since we...

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May 19, 2018

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Title	Text her first?
Author	Ronaldo-CR7-
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	May 19, 2018 11:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/8kp13m/text_her_first/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/text-her-first.97673 https://theredarchive.com/post/97673

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[–]Gucci_sauce_1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]Ronaldo-CR7--1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–]2alpha-zach0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]Ronaldo-CR7--1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Do you mean she will think that she's my only option to talk to? Or vice versa?

My dread game has been pretty top notch, I smash her one night and then next night Snapchat that I'm at the club. Then the next night insta story of me out with some girls, I think she gets the idea that I don't give a fuck.

My only concern is that I would consider her a lower smv than me cause she's a stoner, lives at home but got a good high paying job. She doesn't have many Instagram followers and I know she's not seeing any other guys. I know she's not desperate but I know she's never met anybody like me.

Also she knows I run a successful business and travel the world but last time we had lunch she started downplaying my success and saying she doesn't care.. at first I thought it was a shit test but could it be jealousy? That I'm doing way better than her and have options?

You may wonder why I even bother talking to this girl the truth is I got a soft spot for her and always have a good time (emotional investment) bad idea I know but I can't help it with this girl, hence why I'm over thinking (another beta move)

[–]2alpha-zach0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]LeftAndRed 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

[–]Ronaldo-CR7-0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

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[–]LeftAndRed 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

> I don't want to lose this plate cause she thinks I don't give a fuck about her

Here is where you are going wrong. It doesn't matter what she is feeling so long as she is feeling. Making her sad or angry is an effective way to maintain attraction. The Law of Feelz states:

\It doesn't matter what she feels as long as you are the center of that feeling.**

You only lose when she has apathy towards you. Women feel apathy when they have too much comfort. It sounds like you did that. Now you need to stoke the engine again.

My prescription: Soft next for 2 weeks. Then respond with "hey" like nothing happened. Tell her you got busy and wrapped up in things if she asks otherwise offer no explanation. She'll know it's a lie but won't do anything about it.

FOLLOW THE RULES THE SOFT NEXT. 0 responses. 0 contact. 10-14 days. 10 days if she's reached out a ton, or 14 days to find out you lost.

Use the time to find another plate. I think your abundance is weak hence why you gave you attention for nothing in return. Go make out with a new girl.

This will either stoke the flame again as she hamsters herself back into attraction, or it shows you that attraction is dead and you killed it by chatting like her girlfriend.

[–]Ronaldo-CR7-0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]LeftAndRed 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes. You'll definitely know by then. She'll contact you before she leaves if she is attracted, if she hasn't by 14 days the vacation may as well be forever. If she does contact you before then, act like nothing happened, tell her to hit you up after vacation and you'll do sexy time. Word that however makes sense for your history but keep it 100% sexual from here on out.

No more talking about your days over text. Do that in bed after you've fucked or preferably over breakfast coffee. Your attention comes after sex. Sex should be the number one priority in your interactions unless she's an LTR and even then sex should still be high . She should send nudes if you soft next her for annoying you or otherwise causing trouble for you. (Despite what conventional wisdom says here, I use my requests for nudes as my own compliance test and to signal sex is the primary reason I'm here. It's not beta when done right.) This is how relationships have successfully worked for me. This is the model I use, if you like it, aim for it.

[–]Ronaldo-CR7-0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link