I made the below thread on my situation with one girl in Germany.

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7hh9gt/texting_situation_with_19_yo_german_chick/

We kind of hooked up (foreplay) and texted occasionally but nothing much. I return on Friday to Berlin. It seems she is seeing someone now (not sure if exclusive). It's possible I could score (her insta said: "when you hoeing but you catch feelings"), but all the comments from the thread above made me realise that I have been putting too much importance into scoring. I'm not too fussed about her seeing others as there was no commitment in the first place, however, I committed my mind to succeeding as if scoring a hot chick again would boost my ego and my validation.

This is the real problem I am having. I'm not very sure why I pin so much importance on this, it's exactly like when I go out, I can score but if she flakes or if I don't fuck her it bothers me.

Maybe it's because I am not building my own empire and using this as a band-aid for what I should really be doing. The first question is when I arrive in Berlin, how do I ask her out with me and my mates and be non-committal about it? Second is how do I stop being so needy about situations like this? I get the whole self-improvement thing, but is there something to just distract my mind from always hoping a girl likes me. Thanks