Texting

IXseed · 2019-12-07T19:14:32+00:00

You don't have to be a cold fish but just don't let it take up your time. You don't have to validate them but you can chat for a few messages before you close. The thing is that the whole conversation has a point. You never wanna just text a girl "just to talk" because that in itself is validation for her. It shows you worry about where you stand.

Also the long time to respond is if she reaches out first...give it some time then respond. After that, 3~5 mins between replies.

serynada · 2019-12-07T18:42:02+00:00

define negative results. are you losing women and fucking them less? or does it feel weird not being an emotional tampon/source of free validation for women? two different things.

you’ll have to experiment and use your sense of judgment. sometimes you’ll want to humor her, give her a taste of the back and forth, short responses, maybe a few questions. you want to test her investment by using mostly statements and see if she asks questions, indicating a desire to win you over and get to know you more.

but you want to keep this to a minimum and set up in person meet ups where this can happen.

you are not a pen pal. you are her Daddy.

think about how you have “conversations” with children. it’s like that with women, as i’m sure you’ve experienced. some women are more like adolescents, have some depth and range but at the end of it all they’re still kids and you want to talk to them in that same tone. they just wanna have fun.

when you talk to a child your goal is usually to assert your authority, have fun with them by playing with their sense of reality (imposing your frame on theirs or making them question theirs) and in general not taking them seriously.

same rules apply.

try to stick to logistics. but experiment with brief, frame-establishing text convos. do it the right way, don’t do it too much. if you do, she’ll confuse you for an emotional tampon - a guy with nothing better to do, no affairs to attend to, no other bitches to game. a low value guy that she actually just remembered she never wanted to fuck to begin with.

throw4wa8 · 2019-12-07T18:37:40+00:00

If you're meeting with a girl (ex shes coming over) do you text her to confirm or is it too faggy/giving her the option to say no? If so, Do you text her the day before or the same day?

I feel like I'm overthinking this and it doesnt matter but from girls responses Im feeling like im fucking up somehwere and cant figure out where

Title	Texting
Author	throw4wa8
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	December 7, 2019 6:29 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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