thoughts about ending it?

MrTyler_Durden · 2017-03-01T04:02:30+00:00

Holy shit you have the perfect opportunity to turn your life around right now. Sounds like have zero commitments. Which is good because that means that you have 100% open commitment space to put it all about bettering yourself. You are obviously overweight. By a lot. This needs to be where we start. Find an mma gym. Go every single night. Even when you are sore. You need to push yourself because you need to get this weight off your body. I know it sounds intimidating but the instructors at most MMA gyms are spectacular and very interested in their craft and introducing you to it. You'll also make really good humble friends there. Exercise will also help with your depression. Natural anti-depressant.

Sleep schedule. For right now, go to sleep early and wake up early. Set your alarm clock so you get up before the sun. Start EVRRY SINGLE DAY with a run or walk if you have to start there. Something about watching the sun come up in the morning is very peaceful. Most humans miss it these days. Run for as far as you can until you can't anymore. If it's a quarter mile then that's fine, if it's 500 ft then that's fine too. Just take note of how far you got and the next morning run a little further past that point. Then the next morning run a little further. Over time eventually you'll be running miles without even noticing how far you've come. Eventually one morning you'll get up and do your run and you'll think "shit I need to bring my gps because I'm starting to go far!"

This takes care of your cardio, between running each morning and mma in the evening.... That fat will fall off you in no time assuming you stick to a diet. We'll get to that. A lot of people don't workout or exercise because they never did it long enough to see themselves change. Once you see the change and you see that it works, you'll get addicted. Download the SoundCloud app or go to YouTube and search for motivational speakers and videos and listen to these on your run, at the gym, in your car, this motivating shit needs to be flowing through your ears constantly.

Now you need a gym membership. Go to the gym after mma. Yup. Sound like too much, too bad you are at crossroad between living and putting a bullet in your teeth. You don't have the luxury of saying "that's too much". Normally I would tell you to lift heavy at the gym. But for you, you need to keep that heart rate up to shred that fat. So I suggest lifting light and a lot or some sort of HIIT routine. Just focus main muscle groups right now. Shoulders, back, bi's, tri's, thighs and calves. All the other little muscle groups will follow and come the fat is gone, you'll be able to focus on those other muscles that most guys don't have.

Then your diet. No more soda, added sugar, or junk food like chips and and cookies. If it has a nutrition label put it back, until you've made some progress. Find out your basil metabolic rate, the amount of calories you burn just by living a day without exercise. Whatever number this is, you need to stay below it. So let's say your basil metabolic rate is 1,800 calories. That means that you need to stay under that many calories each day. Some people will say that since you exercising you can also eat a little more than 1,800 but fuck that. You need to lose close to 100 pounds, so again, you don't have the luxury to eat a little more. The extra calories burned on your run and mma and the gym will be a bonus. So keep your calories under your basil metabolic rate. You have nothing but time, which means you the time to cook meals not eat junk. Use blue apron if you got the money. But pick up cooking as a little hobby. It's fun and a good skill to have.

As far as your depression, buy a dog. A high energetic dog that will need you to take him out. Take him on your run in he morning. Take him to the dog park. A dog, your father and maybe your mother are the only creatures that will love you unconditionally. In fact I think my dog loves me more than my parents. She doesn't judge me, she doesn't get mad if I don't have time to take her to the dog park, she is just my best friend. It feels good to have something waiting for at home to greet you with happiness and a wagging tail.

failingtheturingtest · 2017-03-01T02:47:02+00:00

You have 6 days a week available to work on you. Sounds like a really great opportunity.

Life is fucking hard. Be fucking harder!

There will come a time when you look back at this moment and realize you either completely wrote yourself off and continued down a path of self-sabotage, or decided you deserved better and the only person that can do it, is you.
Only one of those options is possible when you internalize the sidebar.

bainbridge_island · 2017-03-01T03:33:58+00:00

How do you manage that without being homeless? Oh of course....Mommy.

Title	thoughts about ending it?
Author	redpill92
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Date	March 1, 2017 2:42 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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Life is fucking hard. Be fucking harder!