A lot of the terminology and strategies I've seen when I strayed on here makes me think that there is a lot of overcomplication, perhaps based on previous heartbreak and hurt (not judging I have scars too).

It has reminded me of this book which I read which seemed to be relatively healthy and helpful. The key idea I remember from it is 'screening' I think it was called, the idea that there are few people that you will encounter that you would have the chance of building a relationship with but that's fine and you can help speed up the sorting process for both you and other people by making efforts to show who you are and your character.

If you feel like you have to perform or play games to woo someone, firstly you're putting yourself down that the real you isn't enough and secondly you're putting yourself in the position to put on a show throughout your time together which sounds tiring to me.

But if you spend the time which you would've spent learning about strategies and Alpha Beta Omega could be used instead on pursuing your passions and getting to know yourself

I highly recommend taking a video of yourself speaking freely, only for the purpose of watching back and listening to what you are thinking as though you were listening to a friend, instead of holding back on writing your whole truth down, you might be surprised what comes out and what is important to you. I have had therapy before and found it strange what came out of my mouth that I'd clearly had tucked away in my brain which took talking to someone else to come out! So you could skip the therapy and check in with yourself anyway, why wait for things to get bad enough?

Here's the book I recommend Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

And also an article on how talking to yourself can be helpful, sure maybe not all answers are within us but I think we can get further than we give ourselves credit for. https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-minute-therapist/201712/do-you-talk-yourself

I'm fine with this getting downvoted to hell but please believe that I am not being critical for the sake of it and that I have only written this in case it is food for thought for anyone.

Peace outttt