I'm a 21 year old college student who has been back and forth between RP and BP tendencies.

I met this girl, lets call her Sara, on tinder about 1 month ago. Shes probably about an Hb8 but slightly under me in terms of looks. I had known her in my childhood for a brief bit, and we've been social media acquaintances for quite some time before. We naturally reconnected and jumped into an immediate intimate relationship.

Now this was great for the first 3 or 4 weeks. It's like she couldn't get enough. She was constantly texting and wanting to come over, and I made my first mistake of saying yes to all her requests. She went on a friend trip to New Mexico as well as met my family on two different occasions. In other words things were rapidly speeding up and it didn't seem like it would stop.

Then comes my sin #2. I asked her to be my girlfriend, and she said she couldn't at the moment. After that we still texted and hung out a couple times but the passion and excitement seemed to be gone from her. She blatantly told me she wanted to be alone and that she really didn't care to lose me but she still cares yada yada. I told her that its probably a good idea for us to do our own thing for a bit. So technically this "relationship" is still ongoing.

Then comes this weekend. After trying to keep contact all last week by sending dumb attempts at humor (Sin # 3) all of which were ignored. I finally went radio silent about 3 days ago. On Saturday, I went to a bar with some friends, chatted a few girls up, and also saw one of her sorority sisters. I smoked a cigarette outside with her friend and she called Sara, telling her that I was there and she that she should come (not my idea). Sara rejects saying shes tired. Later that night my buddy said that her friend showed him text messages from Sara to her friend saying that she didn't know what to do, and that I wouldn't stop texting her until Thursday

Anyways on Sunday I get a text message from Sara simply saying "Hey" I respond 6 hours later at night, saying "What's up?". Shortly later she rights "Just confused". I give it about 20 min and say "Confused on what?". Thats where the convo ends and she doesn't reply.

In my mind I have 3 options:

  • Text her stating that I'm coming over tonight. (Because I believe she wants to be dominated and told what to do)
  • Text her asking her to get a drink/coffee or something tonight (I feel this is the blue pill side getting to me)
  • Or wait it out until she texts me again. (Hardest option for me but I think it could be the right one)

I could really use some advice. Before you all say next to her, i've already developed a bad case of oneitis and would like to avoid that if possible. Thanks