Too much alpha?

throw_em_all · 2015-11-11T15:46:24+00:00

That's a comfort test if I'm not mistaken, I've read several times from RP guys in LTRs or married that you need to mix some "blue" every now and then, when this happens, because by nature an alpha tends to spin plates or at least that's the idea you're giving her, to which a logical reaction would be this one, to be insecure about your commitment.

Metalaggeddon · 2015-11-11T17:49:01+00:00

This is normal.

They love the preselected, and hate the competition afterward.

Comfort test.

Give her a big manly hug, pat her on the head, and say "well remind me why i want you"

Then fuck her.

She doesn't need to believe you will put up with her bull or skip on her, she just needs to feel it right now. You don't need to make promises, provide intentions, nothing, just curb her momentary reminder with distraction or redirection mixed with a positive (sexual) experience.

Remember, she bonds, however little, whenever you fuck. Mix comfort tests with great sex and then go about your life.

babydocnorman · 2015-11-11T18:16:48+00:00

She's comfort testing you, a sign that you have the upper hand in the relationship and she's insecure about it.

The key to passing a comfort test is to assuage her insecurity by demonstrating that, while you do have other options, she's special to you. You do this by giving her an opportunity to earn the title of your GF by doing something other than fucking you.

Have her cook you a meal or do something else special for you. Respond by making a small romantic gesture in return: a single flower, short poem or just tell her that you think she's special. Don't overdo it. This way she'll get the message that as long as she serves you, you'll reward her by giving her and not her potential competition your commitment.

stickfiguresk · 2015-11-11T11:48:57+00:00

Romantic gestures, and similar things to imply she's moderately special. This is a good read on the subject.

TheBadGod · 2015-11-11T14:58:22+00:00

Sounds like you're doing great.

Remind her where she is and that you chose her to be there.

Title	Too much alpha?
Author	redthrowawaypill
Upvotes	11
Comments	5
Date	November 11, 2015 11:43 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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