Training a BPD?

Magnum007 · 2017-03-07T17:32:54+00:00

But it doesn't describe how to deal with women with SERIOUS emotional issues.

yes it does : HARD NEXT

Is there a way to train one?

they come already trained; trained to ruin your life...

I'm ask because that's all I seem to attract over the year of starting this.

You're doing something wrong. Re-read the sidebar and start over.

Might as well make good use of it for plate spinning.

you can't spin plates when you're broke from replacing shit they break, from paying lawyer fees or when you're in jail...

EDIT : Jokes aside, BPD is a serious psychiatric disorder...

Think of it this way : normally women have some software issues that some idiot programmer messed up (society, her dad, ex boyfriends whatever). The hardware is ok, the basic system is more or less intact, but the operating software is bugged. Some women have small bugs that can be smoothed out easily because the basic system is working ok... Others need some more work.

Women/people with BPD and other psychiatric disorders have hardware issues. The disk drive is corrupted, the RAM is messed up, the CPU clocks too fast/too slowly. There's no programming in the world that can fix this. The software will ALWAYS be fucked up because it isn't being run properly in the first place. There's nothing you can do...

Bottom line : Stay the fuck away from BPD

hccps · 2017-03-07T18:00:24+00:00

Similar to with normal chicks, turned up 100 notches. Stability with a borderline is more like a dynamic equilibrium. You'll get more 1s and 10s on each end of hot and cold scale, rather than the 4s and 6s with most other girls.

The attachment style of the borderline is anxious-avoidant. You will be 'shit-tested' in a nuclear way, because they have pathological need to violently assess your emotional strength and attachment to them.

Remaining mostly non-reactive is required with borderlines, since they fear most the prospect of being abandoned. So long as you never actually commit, they will keep chasing and trying to 'keep' you (which can inspire both some of their best and worst traits). Let them know they have you and they get scared shitless and self-sabotage and devalue you (borderlines use a black-and-white thinking called 'splitting' which means you're either their hero or the worst person on earth depending on their mood).

That said, borderlines tend to throw comfort tests too that can be completely psycho. They will gaslight and physically assault, toying for a reaction -- to know that somebody is there. And they'll revel in the idea of getting you to snap and throw them into the wall, because they like to know that they can get to you.

Word of warning: You'll only really enjoy a borderline fully if you too are pathologically disordered. If you don't really like it, don't self-depreciate yourself. I need a batshit-crazy girl to let me ride her emotional rollercoaster with her to feel anything in a relationship, else I have a shallow palette of emotional intensity. Borderlines give me fuel to feel something and play the kind of psychological games I need. For a relatively healthy/normal dude looking to get out of a depression or become a better man, this is a terrible choice.

quicklogaccount · 2017-03-07T17:37:38+00:00

Unwanted advice opening: I suppose you're not opening a lot to be saying that. Particularly "attract". Game the girls and you'll be attracting them.

NO. You can't train a BPD woman.
These people have structural issues in their psychological structure, the ego, superego and it thing. They don't respond to conditioning like normal people, not even professional behavior therapy, let alone to a guy training them.
Keeping these people "stable" requires a different process, hard to do, stuff for specialized psychologists.

And don't toy around them either, mainly with BPDs. They usually don't have the inner sense of boundaries, limits, nor remorse. They destroy your life, maim, kill, as naturally as they eat and take a dump. I want to do it, I do it.

Masupilamii · 2017-03-07T18:56:17+00:00

Don't do it. They will fuck you over big time. Every cluster B woman is a big NO.

Title	Training a BPD?
Author	MoreTheBetterx3
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Date	March 7, 2017 5:17 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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