I’m sure all of you are guilty of this, I’m naturally a charming person. I flirt with everyone. I can’t turn it off. It’s just something I do, and it’s pretty funny making old ladies at the grocery story giggle.

Sometimes that gets me a lot of connections and opportunities. Nothing bad has ever came out of it. This week, I went home to visit my parents while my LTR was traveling. I go to my favorite bar alone with the intention of relaxing and winding down from the week, alone.

Of course, two of the staff girls get off their shift, sit down a few spots away, and start sneaking glances at me. It was inevitable that they were gonna talk to me. Eventually, one of them asks me to pass the menu to them. I tell them No and that they should know the menu if they work here (jokingly of course).

One conversation leads to another and they’re buying me drinks and asking a billion questions. My job is a lot of talking and I’m naturally interested in everyone. Eventually, we head to a different bar and they continue buying me drinks. Then we head back to their house and drink in the backyard and just chill. Nothing sexual or weird happened. I politely friendzoned them because as a man, my word is absolute and I’m committed to one person. Eventually I stumble home at 6am and crash. A long night, but I still feel pretty guilty even though I didn’t do anything. I was definitely attracted to them but isn’t that natural for a guy? My LTR is definitely more attractive physically and personality wise, she just wasn’t there. Maybe I was just drunk and too free spirited, but if they tried any harder, it would have been hard for me to stop them. It wasn’t easy to dodge them. I just feel like if my LTR was out with two guys and drinking with them, I would have felt pretty crossed. I can only imagine what she would think if I told her. I know myself and even if I’m drunk, I won’t cheat, but I do like the attention.

What I’m asking, and this isn’t to humblebrag, should I turn off the charm so I don’t get put into situations like this? Should I feel guilty even though I had no intentions of sleeping with them? Why did I talk to them even though I knew they were nowhere even close to the girl I already have?