First off before I start this, I'd like to thank all at TRP for helping me get as far as I did with this girl I met at a New Years Party. I'm still a newbie in regards of TRP and how it works overall. But I've never gotten so intimate with a girl before! So thanks for helping me with the first steps!

Back to the girl, it was going well we were dancing and quite intimate (I've never danced with someone that closely before in my life so, that gives you an idea on how much of a newbie I am). But I feel it all went to shit when I tried to kiss her. I followed my instincts which was essentially: get close, create tension by looking at her eyes and having really physical contact. But then for some reason she started crying, and I, for a lack of a better word shocked. She did tell me that before her ex-bf was at the party and that "I can't stop thinking about him." In hindsight I should've known that she was using me as shoulder to cry on, and I think my shock and confusion lead me to result to the blue-pill-eske thinking that I grew up with. Her ex-bf ultimately kinda took her away from me, and left the party with her.

There was a definite size difference between me and the ex-bf. I think he was about 6 ft 4 and I'm about 5 ft 10 (pretty tall for an Indian dude). So, I just wanted to know what could I have done, in terms of my thinking/approach/etc... to make sure that I was the one she left with?

As a note, I'm not asking about "how to get this one girl...." but more so how do I approach situations similar to this (if ever I encounter this in the future). Thanks all for helping me take the first step and I hope to learn from this rejection to only get better and improve me game from here on out!