What does this mean

MattyAnon · 2021-03-19T14:26:47+00:00

She told me she didn't want it to be a ONS - I say alright sure.

So she wants an ongoing thing. Great.

I suggest a reschedule for the night after then I get left on read. Why?

Because she fucked the next guy and also told him she doesn't want it to be a ONS.

Am I chasing if I text again later ? I was thinking about straight up calling and telling her to come to the bar I'm going to be at soon, but I can't tell if she lost interest or genuinely busy.

This ambiguity is what makes dating hard. People obscure their intentions and don't tell you straight up what the situation is. Get used to it, it will never change.

You want to know? Hit her up.

People have lives, they get busy, they get sick, their friends have problems.

Give her a week, then give her a few days notice..... eg:

"Hey girl..... I'm doing XXX on Friday night...... come along!"

(don't give exact time until Friday)

She will either:

Accept
Accept and flake at the last minute (ditch her)
Decline but reschedule (fine, but don't entirely go along with her plan)
Decline (ditch her)
Not respond (ditch her)

2021-03-19T14:13:33+00:00

Doesn't matter why you shouldn't get hung up on any one girl. If she texts back then great otherwise you should be having other girls to keep you busy

benhurensohn · 2021-03-19T14:30:15+00:00

First of all, detach your happiness from the ability to sleep with her. Good tips here: read the sidebar, read stoic literature, read No More Mr Nice Guy.

Once you are detached, you can hit her up again for logistics. "Hey, let's get our drinks finally. Tomorrow 7pm at bar xxx?"

If she accepts, good for you. If not, it's also good because you are detached. Got it?

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kclanton80 · 2021-03-19T16:46:20+00:00

Asd kicked in for her in the night of. Then she decided she didn't care about ons or seeing you again that much after the fact. Women's feelings change like the weather and they are not logical. Never accept anything they say or do to be something that's going to be a constant.

redhawkes · 2021-03-19T19:42:32+00:00

Ego. She took is as rejection, you can't fire me, I quit.

Title	What does this mean
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Date	March 19, 2021 2:02 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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