Hey, I've eaten TRP recently. I have read a lot of the main TRP link bar and looked around post. So I've been wondering something about shit test in a LTR. What about if your SO react negatively to your A&A even if you nailed it? Let's set up things a little bit to understand what I mean :

You have been with her for quite some times (few years) and she all the shit tests that she threw on you have been successful til now. So that night it was another shit test that you cleared. But then right after she goes rage mode and start saying that you are rude, cold, that she's tired of that act you seem to put once in a while. So all in all, she's really mad.

What I think that could be happening :

  • She's giving you a meta test shit to see if the frame you've shown her until then was an act of if you are truly alpha.
  • You tought you had clear that shit test but you failed (and maybe failed the previous ones).
  • She's cheating on you.

Note that I've been in a 7 years relationship and shit the bed because I was too beta. I've been MGTOW for a year now but I'm not against a LTR again at some point in my life. However this situation is not what happened in my previous relation (I just failed multiple time those shit tests, even so she kept clinging into me until she got tired). I just happened to think of hypothetic situations when try to see how I would react.

To me, it would sound more like a "meta" shit test where she wants to confirm you are the alpha, so you have to act accordingly by being the "father" and calming her down and not excuse yourself. But what do you guys think of it, what should be the correct way to handle this?