A couple years ago I was the party guy. I would go out every weekend clubbing and dancing. I would pull a new girl and sometimes 2 every weekend. I lived in crazy abundance. The women were hooked on me. I’d have them constantly hitting me up. I could pretty much pick who I wanted. Anywhere from 2-5 plates at one time. I’d alpha widow my FWB/plates if I soft next them.

I would call them would come running. Fast forward to now. I’m in an LTR. I stopped partying because it was a toxic lifestyle for me and my goals. I found a girl who provided a ton of value to my life. We ended up moving in together. And even though I truly miss my old player lifestyle. I’m in a way better place mentality and mission wise than I was back then. Way better.

That being said. And even though I’m still in an LTR I do get side pussy every now and then. It’s just what I do. I will always do it. I’m not a one pussy kind of guy. My LtR provides tons of value and I only need one good side fuck a month and I’m straight. I don’t need to be actively spinning plates every week.

But one thing I have noticed is a huge decline in women I have to pick from. The ones who used to come running. No longer do. The others don’t like the fact I have a girlfriend. Almost all my old plates broke even the easy ones. Now I’m stuck with 1 girl who will come over rarely (used to come at the drop of a text lately she flaked 3 times).

I feel like I lost my mojo and I don’t know why. I’m making more. I’m way more ripped. I’m in an LTR with a hot girl. It should be almost easier according to TRP. But it’s far from it. The only things that changed is I’m not the party guy anymore. And I’m off social media. I feel like the deletion of social media had a lot to do with this. “Out of sight out of mind kind of deal”

I used to post of all the fun shit I did. And jacked gym pictures and I’d have a weird amounts of chicks slide in my dm or old plates hitting me up because they “missed me”. But now I’m left with nothing. It’s a very weird feeling since I’m so used to a huge amount of abundance. I have the abundance mindset still so I’m not mopping over it. But it is a little weird feeling and I’m wondering wtf happened.

Is this a case of trying to spin old plates that broke without realizing it or am I just no longer that dude?

Also how do I get back to where I was? Maybe not that magnitude but if I was pussy I can just make the call and one or two of them will consistently come